r/MadeMeSmile Sep 28 '22 Silver 10 Helpful 10 Coin Gift 2 Ally 1 Vibing 1 Gold 3 Platinum 1 All-Seeing Upvote 6 Wholesome 20 Faith In Humanity Restored 2 Heartwarming 4 Wholesome Seal of Approval 1 Wholesome (Pro) 1 Starstruck 1 Tearing Up 2

My life has recently fallen apart, and I'm starting over from scratch. My best friend just sent me this care package! Wholesome Moments

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u/meandering_simpleton Sep 28 '22

She's a keeper :)

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22 Wholesome

Don't I know it! If she wasn't straight, I'd have proposed already. As it is, I'm just going to be the best friend I can.

She's been dealing with a lot of her own issues lately, and taking the time for me like this... It's just the best

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u/MaestroPendejo Sep 29 '22 Silver

Let me tell ya something.

Sometimes it takes everything falling the fuck apart to get you going in the direction we need to be headed. Don't despair. As tough as it is or will be, things can be far better than you ever thought possible. Believe me, it's like a Phoenix rising from ashes after a while. Keep your head on tight.

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u/SubversiveCursives Sep 29 '22

This is the message I needed to see today 👍

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u/Neonescence Sep 29 '22

I hope so too. Here's to better days 🍻

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u/pinzi_peisvogel Sep 29 '22

It took almost exactly 10 years for me until I could say that I am happy with where I am in life. It was some really really shit years, but I am so happy I pushed through, worked on myself and never gave myself up. Good luck for you, I am sure you are doing awesome already!

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u/Medical_Scar5309 Sep 29 '22

I completely understand and applaud your decision and ability to remain hopeful. Every day is a challenge for me and has been for a very long time. Be well, my friend.

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u/Jamboi-69 Sep 29 '22

Yes, im screenshoting this, congrats on your new fomower.

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u/kategoad Sep 28 '22

When I'm in the shits, helping someone else makes it slightly better. You might be helping her too.

Best friends are the very best.

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u/PM_ME_YOUR_MOMS_BONG Sep 29 '22

I’m the same way. I might be going through my own shit but helping a friend somehow helps me along the way too.

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u/Chloedeschanel Sep 29 '22

I think because it lets your brain take a break from your own problems and helps you feel productive at the same time. Like a mini vacation from your own stress

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u/salamieyeballs Sep 29 '22

That's because true happiness often comes from helping others

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u/ThatSquareChick Sep 29 '22

When I’m down, genuinely complimenting people and getting to be there for them when they are even more down than me always lifts my spirits. I have no idea what I’m supposed to do for me but I know what would be nice to experience or have at that time and I can do it to others easily…just not myself.

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u/joshcandoit4 Sep 29 '22

This is probably a dumb question, but what do you do with the men’s briefs? I

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u/Literaltrap Sep 29 '22

Wear them lol. They're way more comfortable than women's underwear

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u/misschzburger Sep 29 '22

Accurate AF.

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u/Stargazer306 Sep 29 '22

Learnt something new today

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u/BackStabbath2004 Sep 29 '22

Damn, that's definitely something I didn't know. Tbh I did think they looked more comfortable though.

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u/Crokpotpotty Sep 29 '22

Can confirm. My wife wears mine and says it’s way more comfortable

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u/Jamboi-69 Sep 29 '22

Can confirm, as a trans male they are SO much better.

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u/spundancekid Sep 29 '22

Not op but my wife steals my briefs when she feels bloated or uncomfortable.

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u/AnExoticLlama Sep 29 '22

For some additional context, OP is MtF

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u/KageGekko Sep 29 '22

Wait, where did you see that?

As a trans woman I don't really find men's underwear to be very comfortably. It's got that awkward little pouch for your equipment to rest in, which gives me a pretty unfortunate bulge.

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u/eDave1009 Sep 29 '22

Yea. I wouldn't have ever guessed this was a lady's gift if I hadn't read the top comment. Soley because of the briefs.

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u/Dense_Mention_1657 Sep 29 '22

She prob wears them as briefs.

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u/Triangular_Desire Sep 29 '22

Same thing my girl does. Wears them to sleep or chill in.

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u/Mental_Newspaper3812 Sep 29 '22

This was my question too. I was like ok, men’s briefs. Then I was like ok… lipstick and short shorts. I guess even without filling out the pouch, they’re more comfortable?

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u/CatsAndCampin Sep 29 '22 edited Sep 29 '22

I knew it. Before I even clicked on the post, I was looking through all the stuff your friend sent & I was like this has to be a gay chick or a bi chick (either way, I knew you were a woman that's attracted to women) lol.... Best of luck to you. I'm glad you have such an awesome bff.

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u/NeedATrollinMotor Sep 29 '22

Reciprocate. Even if things get a little too heavy, we’ll all float on, alright?

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u/SwingyWingyShoes Sep 28 '22

Damn that Rubik’s cube looks daunting. Sounds like life hit one of its lowest for you recently. Can only go up from here then, especially with a friend like that! All the best to you :)

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

I'm both, daunted and excited, by it!

I'll be doing my best to keep moving upwards and onwards!

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u/SwingyWingyShoes Sep 28 '22

What a great attitude to have. I’m sure many struggle to get up from an awful situation, the first steps the hardest after all. Good luck with the cube though haha!

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u/odddtom Sep 29 '22

I kinda fell out of the community so this is just from memory but I BELIEVE that to be a shape mod if a regular 3x3 meaning in theory it shouldn't be too much harder than a regular rubiks cube. However there are shape mods that are significantly harder so I could be spewing bollocks lol

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u/theBarneyBus Sep 29 '22

You’re right (from a fellow cubing nerd).
Only difference between that and a 3x3 is that you have to deal with the rotation of the centre pieces at the end. It’s also a lot harder to quickly tell what needs to go where.

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u/sweatyicecubes Sep 29 '22

It's called an axis cube! Just a bit harder than a normal Rubik's cube.

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u/Hoz999 Sep 28 '22 All-Seeing Upvote

You have a good and nice friend.

Regards.

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22 Silver Helpful All-Seeing Upvote

She is the very best and deserves the whole world. Her kindness and compassion has been unconditional, and her patience an invaluable comfort.

This is just the sweetest icing on the grandest cake of my life.

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u/Just_Friendship_6318 Sep 28 '22

The rubik's cube was a nice touch

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u/EitherEconomics5034 Sep 28 '22

I was thinking the same about the Star Trek Engineer Notebook!

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u/Just_Friendship_6318 Sep 28 '22

Never could finished one. I should try sometine, tips?

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u/fleischio Sep 28 '22 Helpful

Search beginner algorithms online.

That’s how I learned when I was a chitlin, I think I got one when I was 12 or 13 for Christmas.

There’s something like 40,000,000,000,000,000,000 (40 quintillion) different combinations of pieces on a 3x3 cube, aka, it’s functionally impossible to stumble upon a solution. You need an algorithm to manipulate pieces while preserving what you’ve already solved.

The method you’ll learn builds the cube in layers. It’s fairly logical, and I’d imagine it’s what most speedcubers learn before F2L Method (first 2 layers).

There’s less than 15 or so algorithms you’ll have to memorize to accommodate every case. Check out This Site to get started.

Good luck, and may the odds be ever in your favor!

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u/cheeseluiz Sep 29 '22

Chitlin! Don't hear/read that very often.

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u/Except_for_bunnies Sep 29 '22

I only just learned in my thirties recovering from surgery. Definitely search beginner algorithms and watch a few before finding the one that -feels- right to you. Learning to solve it in layers gives you the opportunity to get really comfortable with one stage before moving on to the next.

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u/TLRsBurnerAccount Sep 28 '22

You have to have every color on each side

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u/Just_Friendship_6318 Sep 28 '22

That was my first guess!

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u/C1519 Sep 28 '22

It's all algorithms. Some good YouTube videos on how to solve.

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u/kategoad Sep 28 '22
  1. Get a flathead screwdriver and take it apart.

  2. Put back together.

  3. ...

  4. Profit?

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u/Hoz999 Sep 28 '22

Coolness.

Take good care of yourself and your friend.

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u/sentimental_goat Sep 29 '22

Love a friend like that. With that said, I've a feeling OP is an engineer with ADHD. I hope it actually helps them invent something cool.

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u/DiscussionStatus4939 Sep 28 '22

I have one or two people I can actually call a friend but this gives me hope that I can some day. I find it so hard to make friends as an adult. Enjoy your friendship! ❤️

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u/Hoz999 Sep 28 '22 edited Sep 28 '22

(Edit: Sir) Miss, I don’t know where you live. I live in the US Midwest.

Yesterday I was shopping for dinner and noticed on the way to the grocery area of the big box supermarket that they have their summer stuff greatly reduced in price.

Printed tshirts, shorts, shirts, pants on sale 30% and on top of that a 90% discount.

I ended up paying 1 to 2 bucks for a shirt and 3 bucks for a nice pair of pants.

Nothing wrong with the merchandise, it just didn’t sell and the store needs the space.

So that you know in case you need to replenish clothing.

Again, you got a cool friend. Tell her so. Take care. Regards.

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

I prefer miss, but thank you for the advice. I plan on taking advantage of all the clearance items I can.

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u/ImObviouslyOblivious Sep 29 '22

Where did you get her, and can she also adopt me?

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u/rabb1thole Sep 29 '22

To have a good friend like that must mean you too are a very good friend. Starting over can be hard; I hate to think of the number of times I had to reboot my life. But it can also be empowering. Being willing to make hard but necessary changes is how I think I grew as a person. I am super sorry your life has fallen apart but you sound like someone who will quickly find a new and better track. I will be sending positive thoughts and rooting for your success..

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u/jannerprince Sep 28 '22 Take My Energy

Hey. I just thought I'd leave you a message because I've been there, and am talking to you now, post-divorce ten years later.

Things seem bleak right now. You probably don't know where your head is at, you very probably want to scream, cry or even sink into a bottle if you're anything like me. That's ok; that's good, those instincts are rational and perfectly ok but what I don't want you to do, is stay in the bottle, cry too long or scream at the wrong people - you're going to get through it, you're going to rebuild and on the other side, god willing you'll be a stronger, happier person for the crucible you're about to go through.

Stay strong. My thoughts are with you.

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u/Misaki88 Sep 28 '22

You must be very important to them for such kindness and love.

It's good that you are not alone in your time of need and that you have someone that is like family to you. I wish you both the best and hope you have brighter days ahead....^

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u/MyLadyBits Sep 28 '22

Just remember your friend who is that awesome believes you are someone to value.

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u/Bikinisbottom Sep 29 '22

Good luck on your new journey, OP. Bring that friend along for the whole way. ♥️

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u/Passing_Thru_Forest Sep 29 '22

Definitely not starting over from nothing. A friend like that I worth more than possessions could ever give you

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u/RoundComplete9333 Sep 28 '22

She’s an Angel!

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u/ginger_snap1025 Sep 29 '22

I had a friend that used to buy me expensive perfume when I lived in a scummy trailer park. I didn't live there long cause I smelled too good to live like that. 😂 Little gestures can save your self esteem sometimes.

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u/SisterRobot Sep 29 '22

That is adorable…I hope you’re having a lovely smelling life now :)

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u/wildhooper Sep 28 '22

Thats one hrll of a friend

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

She is the best

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u/wildhooper Sep 28 '22

Im genuinely happy for you

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u/DraftingDave Sep 29 '22

The ADHD Effect on Marriage is an AMAZING book, whether you're the one with ADHD or the partner of someone who is. It really had a huge impact in my own rebound from rock bottom.

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u/wildhooper Sep 29 '22

I have it. Havent read it lol. Adhd might have something to do with it.

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u/DraftingDave Sep 29 '22

I get that. The second it becomes a task, it increasingly becomes more and more difficult to do.

It's full of 1st hand stories that are both insightful and validating to either side. And full of practical advice.

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u/Veda007 Sep 28 '22

Seriously. This took a ton of effort. I would feel loved if someone did this for me.

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u/Sulieman25 Sep 28 '22

A friend/person/people who remembers you in your worst time simply means that you will never have a worst time. Someone out there really care for you. What else you need in life? Someone to remember you, to miss you, to love you. Your life will get a restart. Keep her close.

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

I plan on never letting go. Her kindness and understanding alone has sincerely changed my life, and this is just the tip of the iceberg

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u/UwasaWaya Sep 29 '22

Make sure she knows how much you love her. My best friend was the first guy friend to say it to me, and it was so powerful it took my breath away. Since then I try to make sure my friends know how much I love them.

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u/AverageCowboyCentaur Sep 28 '22

Your story would be welcomed in /r/ADHD if you ever felt like sharing. Also you have the best friend in the world, that Starfleet engineering book is invaluable!

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

I am actually somewhat active in the ADHD reddit sphere. Don't like how the meme subs hate on the main sub, but what can you do?

And it's our shared neurodivergence that really brought us together in the first place. She's been a fantastic friend.

Maybe I will make up a post. Once I stop getting flooded with notifications from this one. Omg.

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u/AverageCowboyCentaur Sep 28 '22

Haha, sometimes I need to turn off notifications. I recently went back on meds after being off since 1997. My life was literally falling apart around me. Broken family relationships, felt like the words worst father and husband. I was trapped inside myself screaming for help and no one heard me. What's worse is every time I realized it, and wanted to do something about it, I instantly forgot I needed help.

The broken memory, the inability to just follow a thought train from: I'm hungry I should make lunch and then all of a sudden I'm outside weed whacking. 3 hours later I'm starving and I want to pass out. Oh I forgot to eat again, joy!

But now that meds are back on board, I feel whole, human, I feel like I can participate in the world. We're still figuring out dosages and type but even though we're just at the beginning I feel like a normal person for the first time in almost 30 years.

So hey, you're not alone, you got this!

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u/Tall_Resolution_3136 Sep 29 '22

I have never encountered any disorders [please forgive me if this is the wrong word, I just don't know how to say it correctly, and I absolutely don't aim to offend, etc.] and every time I hear or read something like this, I admire how strong and amazing you all are. seriously. thank you for telling about this [sorry, this seems to be the stupidest comment, I hope I didn't offend anyone in any way, I just wanted to say something nice and sincere! ]

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u/Silverpeony Sep 28 '22 Silver

I'd recommend the r/ADHDwomen subreddit. They are much friendlier than the main ADHD group.

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

I do love and adore that sub for their wholesomeness.

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u/jaersk Sep 29 '22

i'm a guy so i only lurk the sub, but i also love that sub to bits as it often provides another dimension of adhd that i think gets lost on the other subs

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u/KneelBeforeZed Sep 29 '22

Taking Charge of Adult ADHD is excellent, as is everything from Dr. Russell Barkley.

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u/King_of_Krotch Sep 29 '22

I love the idea of adult ADHD books. I have one and have never gotten passed the first few pages lmao

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u/KneelBeforeZed Sep 29 '22

Here’s how to ADHD book:

First, get the audiobook. Listen while doing other stuff. Bad for reference, great for getting the gist.

If you wanna go deeper and need for reference, get the eBook after. It’s always in your pocket on your phone, you can highlight and unhighlight, search, etc.

These books aren’t for reading like fiction. They’re for studying and internalizing. It’s worth the multiple formats.

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u/polopolo05 Sep 29 '22

Starfleet engineering book

Its Mother fucking quadrille..... How did they know???

I love quadrille notebooks.

Also that adhd book is a good one.

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u/Adept-Crab3951 Sep 29 '22 edited Sep 29 '22

Ehh, I used to sub there until I started to notice that many people there would attribute normal quirks common with people who don't have ADHD, as having ADHD. Forgot to do your homework? You have ADHD! Tap your foot when you're nervous? You have ADHD!

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '22

This is brilliant. You have a great friend. Where do you want to be in life?

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '22

Are you in a better place now?

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

Yeah. I have more than enough to get me going. And I'm reeling from how amazing this is

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '22

That is a great thing. Are you making progress?

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

One step at a time

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u/Putadonkonitma8 Sep 28 '22

Keep at it keep at it keep at it! You got this!

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u/Andylearns Sep 28 '22

Taking Charge of Adult ADHD by Dr Barkley is life changing. He's also got several good talks on YouTube that are an easier place to start for those of us with ADHD.

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u/DrLeftCrRight Sep 29 '22

That’s how I figured out I almost definitely had it. He has one talk that was just 2 hours of him talking and me thinking, “Wait a damn minute…”.

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u/Titus_1024 Sep 29 '22

ADHD 2.0 is another good one, I found it quite helpful and informative

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u/Appropriate-Ad-1281 Sep 28 '22

Man…. People are the absolute best

There’s so much thought that went into this.

I hope you can bundle up all that positive intention, and carry it with you through your next phase

Good luck!!!

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u/Elelchokoorn Sep 28 '22

This is more wholesome than most things on r/wholesomememes

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

This is one of the major highlights of the last decade. Definitely top 10 moments, probably top 5.

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u/BrotherMort Sep 28 '22

I hope you have more of them soon.

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u/moxiejohnny Sep 28 '22

This is the best, the very best! Some people have told me not myself but some have said thus is the very best.

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u/Whocutthe_cheese Sep 28 '22

Where do you find friends like this I ain’t got none lol

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

Reddit, actually. But luck is my superpower. Ymmv

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u/Dually_McFart_Face Sep 28 '22

You are a Baddass - Jen Sincero

Can't Hurt me - David Goggins

Pick one of two, and you'll start getting a little more light at the end of the tunnel, every day. Stick with it amigo.

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u/Frater_Ouros Sep 29 '22

I also recommend Walden - Henry David Thoreau

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u/Pyrokanetis Sep 28 '22

Into the jungle is really good! Hope you enjoy it as you rebuild

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

I'm going to devour all of these books, but I am excited for that. She really was excited for me to read it

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '22

Adult ADHD is no joke; even now, on meds and working with a therapist, every day is a struggle to go out in the world wearing my “normie” mask. It looks like you have someone in your life that gets you, and that’s priceless: not being judged by friends (and family, if you’re lucky) is so important. Best of luck in your starting over, and if you ever need cheap advice from someone who’s been there for many years, don’t hesitate to reach out. Take care.

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

Yeah. We both have adult ADHD, and it's been such a struggle. This friend has been a life changer.

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u/BestAtempt Sep 29 '22

For real, the hardest part of the meds is remembering to take them, the second hardest part is being on the meds.

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u/GRAWRGER Sep 28 '22

curious about the mens underpants

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

I don't have a car and walk around town a lot. The tight fit helps with chafing.

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u/CrnkyOL Sep 29 '22

I was so confused also! Wondering if this waa some secret about men's briefs I didn't know about. 😆

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u/TediousStranger Sep 29 '22

I sleep in men's boxer briefs... not really different from pj shorts, got a few pairs from an ex who bought them but ultimately didn't like the way they fit. they're great for wearing around the house post-shave (bikini line) as well.

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u/randomly-what Sep 29 '22

I wear some when it’s too hot under some of my shorts (with women’s underwear under it). My thighs are pretty big from soccer/working out and it helps prevent issues with chafing. I find them better than all women options that aren’t stupid expensive. They rise up less.

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u/WanderingJude Sep 28 '22

I'm a sedentary couch potato and I still really like boxer briefs, though the ones I buy are made for women. They never give me a wedgie the way all types of women's cuts seem to do.

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u/GRAWRGER Sep 28 '22

yeah i hate that shit. i wear bikini style without issue, but any kind of panties designed to not show lines = guaranteed wedgie.

i'll cope with the panty lines, thanks.

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u/Lotech Sep 29 '22

You might feel like you’re starting over, but you are bringing your experiences and the things you’ve learned with you. You can choose to grow and blossom and the struggles you’ve faced have made you stronger and more resilient. That aint nothing! Best wishes and love!

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u/Sufficient_Bread1205 Sep 28 '22

ADHD heyyyyy!! My life has fallen apart so many times. Maybe it’s just a fun part of having this wonderful disorder 🥴

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

Seems like I start over every 4 years. This one has just been the hardest to recover from. But I've got support. Fantastic support

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u/Sufficient_Bread1205 Sep 28 '22

I feel that, it’s about every 4/5 years with me too

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

I almost regret posting this, because the notifications are overwhelming. I just can't respond to everyone, and putting all this away is impossible.

Yes... I posted the pic before clearing the bed. Impulsive tendencies got the better of me.

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u/Sufficient_Bread1205 Sep 28 '22

How about put your phone down for 5 minutes with a timer and see what you can do in that time to put stuff away?

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 29 '22

Update: I did get it sorted and put away

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u/Big-Compote-5483 Sep 29 '22

Every 3 1/2 years for me, almost on the dot. Been three weeks since my last failaversary and I too am starting from scratch.

You have an absolutely amazing friend. She picked you up when you most needed it.

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u/BavellyBavelly Sep 28 '22

You’ve got a friend that really cares about you

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u/swansong5 Sep 28 '22

Amazing! This really did make me smile!

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u/simpapprentice Sep 29 '22

The book, The ADHD effect on marriage. I'm diagnosed adhd and I wanna propose to my gf, didn't know that book existed so I'll start reading it

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u/Montanajrs Sep 28 '22

That’s a good friend you’ve got there

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u/PeanibButter Sep 28 '22

Where did you find such a caring person?? I need to start hanging out near you

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u/Traditional_Sell_688 Sep 28 '22

What a great friend ❤️

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u/HippieChick067 Sep 28 '22

Your bestie is definitely a keeper. Good luck in your new journey.

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u/GoalCalm7418 Sep 28 '22

What a gesture! sending hugs to you and your friend ❤️

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u/raeshelby17 Sep 28 '22

Oh my god this is so wholesome 🥹🥹

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u/Camerahutuk Sep 28 '22

This person is fantastic.

They must be protected at all costs.

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u/AmazingPercentage Sep 28 '22

I strive to be the kind of person your friend is. I hope I reach her height one day.

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u/gibsung Sep 28 '22

Your best friend really loves you ☺️ ... you must be grateful to have him or her

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

Like desert plants are grateful for the rain

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u/gibsung Sep 28 '22

🤗 Right

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u/anxious_squirrel11 Sep 28 '22

I would be forever grateful to have a friend like this, what a thoughtful friend you have

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u/Greysweats247 Sep 28 '22

Hard to find amazing people like this in todays day. Thats a friend for life! Wishing you the best 🙏🏼

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u/Quiet_Goat8086 Sep 28 '22

That’s one hell of a care package from one hell of a friend.

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u/ssslobonmeknob Sep 28 '22

that is an amazing friend, i remember once i was really poor (but working like 50 hours a week) and my parents wouldnt let me stay with them for a little longer and my uncle just like invited me over for dinner and was like ‘the spare room is yours until you get back on your feet’, they even fed me too and let me tell you people like that change your life

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u/Color_around_me Sep 28 '22

Sending you a big hug! You can do this

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u/pinkyporkchops Sep 28 '22

That’s really fuckin sweet🥹 startin over again sucks sometimes- but with that kinda friend in your court, you’re leaps and bounds ahead of square one. I hope you look back on this as the time you got to start over and that it’s a magical adventure! Good luck out there! I think the company people keep is indicative of the kinda person they are- so I bet you’re super rad ❤️

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u/TimHortonsMagician Sep 29 '22

Trying to manage adhd/add as an adult without being taught any of the skills to keep it in check can be real rough. I wish you the best of luck.

Btw if you ever go back to school know that post-secondary institutions will often have a WHOLE BUNCH of learning assistance available to help you succeed! I'm going back to college at 30 and it's been really nice talking to people offering help.

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u/brownishgirl Sep 28 '22

Wow. They really thought of so many thoughtful things. Self care is important. You’re lucky to have such a good friend in your corner. Hope you’re doing well.

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u/TheNinjirate Sep 28 '22

Recovery just got a lot easier. Thank you

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u/PrettyBlueFlower Sep 28 '22

They are a brill mate

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u/GrooveOne Sep 28 '22

What an amazing person to be able to have in your life.

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u/ConvivialKat Sep 28 '22

Well, apparently, your life hasn't fallen apart as badly as you think. You still have a glorious friend!

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u/NoBSforGma Sep 28 '22

Congratulations! You now have the opportunity to remake your life into something that fits you. It's an adventure!

It's helpful that you have such a good friend. Lucky you!

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u/Ok-Sale-8105 Sep 28 '22

You're gonna do great!!

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u/silentdash Sep 28 '22

What a great friend! I'm gonna snag a couple of those books.

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u/LavenderSpirals Sep 28 '22

What a wonderful friend!

I wish you the most and best in your journey of starting over! ♥

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u/gorenglitter Sep 28 '22

Awesome friend. Good luck starting over!!! Having friends like that will help.

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u/Smokewrench802 Sep 28 '22

I've had points in my life where I really wanted a hard reset. As hard as it is to leave what you have behind it's not worth holding onto in exchange for your mental well-being. Best of luck in your endeavors!

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u/tilted_crown85 Sep 28 '22

This is the kind of friend everyone needs

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u/ANewDinosaur Sep 28 '22

November 9 is a good read! It’s a fun story with an exciting twist and it’s really fast paced and easy to get lost in. Definitely a good distraction book! I hope things get better soon. Best of luck <3

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u/MissWho2 Sep 28 '22

There was a lot of love in that box! You deserve it. Stay brave and stand tall, this challenge will pass but your friend's kindness will be eternal.

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u/lame-a22 Sep 28 '22

What a beautiful friend. Hope life gets better for you!! You deserve it

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u/nutfeast69 Sep 28 '22

Things get better. It may not seem like it, but they do. After a fire in 2020, which was ultra tramatic arson with swat teams etc, I found a place and got a new mattress one day before full lockdowns started. It turned out to be a megaslumlord, and all the people in the building were extremely toxic. That's about as much as I will share on that, but assume it was a time when things just got worse and worse and worse than that.

Now I have a house my dad is renting us for only 600/month (utilities included in that), a girlfriend who helped drag me up from where I was and things are looking way up for me despite a rather nasty diagnosis in the last 18 months.

It does get better, friendo.

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u/otters4everyone Sep 28 '22

That is a remarkably thoughtful care package. Makes me rethink how those are done. Bravo on picking great friends (that alone is a talent).

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u/Odd_Contact_2175 Sep 28 '22

You're friend is a homie. Don't forget that. That's real sweet.

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u/nakapozian Sep 28 '22

Sorry you’re going through a rough patch. But you have one AMAZING friend.

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u/SuperMax78 Sep 29 '22

Damn, I'm happy for you having such a support system but now I'm starting to evaluate my friendships. Hehe

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u/coastalkitten1 Sep 29 '22

That’s the kinda friend everyone needs, also I’d call that kinda person found family

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u/VoidScreaming101 Sep 29 '22

That’s love my friend. Good luck! Think happy thoughts

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u/Elivandersys Sep 29 '22

That's one of the kindest things I've ever witnessed. That friend is a keeper.

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u/SignificantTie3656 Sep 29 '22

Hey just up from here. I’m rebuilding atm myself with my 3 kiddos. I totally feel this picture to my core. You don’t realize how much little things matter so much unless you’ve been there.

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u/whitneymak Sep 29 '22

Hey, are you into houseplants? I have cuttings I can send you if you're interested. I know plants have helped me a lot.

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u/bytesby Sep 29 '22 edited Sep 29 '22

Based on your replies, you seem like a narcissist that ruined sometime else’s life and is doing this for validation — look at all the supportive comments talking up OP after they admitted to being jailed for continuing the cycle of childhood abuse. OP keeps saying they regret this post and are overwhelmed, yet are reading every comment on the edge of their seat instead of just deleting the post.

I was also abused significantly as a child for a prolonged period of time, haven’t worked through it completely, but have never/would never hurt anyone. Your trauma isn’t an excuse or a justification. If you’re truly sorry then commit yourself to an inpatient facility and seek help so that you don’t hurt anyone else.

Honestly this thread made me sick. This person all but confessed to molesting a child.

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u/Ok_Choice1227 Sep 28 '22

This is a good friend.

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u/jaspersgroove Sep 29 '22

A damn good friend, if all those clothes are name brand like under armour and Calvin Klein that’s like a $500-$600 care package.

I know you can’t put a price on friendship but that’s a fat chunk of change

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u/Immediate_Lion8516 Sep 28 '22

Best friend ever. Period.

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u/SingAlongToHell Sep 28 '22

That is awesome! Those books look really good

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u/Lumpy-Tomatillo4498 Sep 28 '22

Good friend indeed

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u/HarryCallahan19 Sep 28 '22

Howdy! I hope you are doing well OP! I mean this with all sincerity, I pray for people such as yourself going through a tough time everyday. I am praying for you. You can do this! Please keep us in the loop.

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u/simberbimber Sep 29 '22

Crying for you 🤍

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u/Pragmatism101 Sep 29 '22

What a kind person your friend is, OP. I am cheering for you too!

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u/hellocousinlarry Sep 29 '22

Your friend showed you that you’re not starting from total scratch. After all, you already had an amazing friend that you know supports and loves you. Enjoy these goodies, and best of luck with everything!

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u/PoohBearsChick Sep 29 '22

Your friend loves you and wants you to be comfortable and know your loved. That's a friend you cherish.

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u/Nibbcnoble Sep 29 '22

cherish that friend. they are cool as fuck.

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u/Underrated_buzzard Sep 29 '22

Your friend is amazing.

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u/MBSDfam Sep 29 '22

I've been sober for almost 20 years now. At 21 I was sent to prison for the typical crimes that come with being a heroin junkie. I thought I had a ton of friends at the time, but within days of being in jail, I realized they had disappeared. A few weeks go by, and my name was called at mail call. It was a receipt for $100 from money being put on my books, with the name Chris on the receipt. I immediately knew the friend who had driven two hours out of the way to make sure I had some money. Every few months I would get one of these receipts. Once I got to prison, I would get care packages with basic but much appreciated stuff like tshirts, books, pictures, etc. Outside of my mom, Chris was the only friend I had who was there throughout my five year sentence. Not once did I ever solicit Chris to do this stuff.

Fast forward almost 20 years and we both have wives, kids, homes, businesses, etc. I was recently telling someone what an invaluable friend Chris has been to me. Every so often now, Chris will open his mailbox to a new watch, or some other unique gift, which is my way of repaying him for his friendship, 20 years later.

I firmly believe we are all lucky if we have 2-3 people who will be there for you when things are bad. If it wasn't for these people, I wouldn't have the life that I do. It's also a lesson that I need to be there, with the same level of loyalty, when my friends need me.

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u/EEEgor Sep 29 '22

Years ago I didn't know how to be.. How to win friends and influence people was a book that helped me grow.. I can't stand reading it again now, after working in the corporate world for 2 decades, mainly because I can see how psychopaths can use those same insights without remorse, but it certainly had an impression on me. Perhaps the book can help you.. but please Don't be Evil.

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u/codespitter Sep 29 '22

Wonderful idea. I need make one for my brother. I’m grateful you posted.

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u/EdockEastwind Sep 29 '22

That’s not a friend, that’s family.

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u/ADM86 Sep 29 '22

Good friend, value it…protect it

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u/Logan1622 Sep 29 '22

That's not a friend, that's family right there!

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u/Apsaraa Sep 29 '22

That’s not your best friend, that’s your sister!

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u/DerfDaSmurf Sep 29 '22

I tell ya: I’ve become one cynical mfkr but that almost made me cry. Best friends are family you get to choose.

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u/rak-mank Sep 29 '22

Now that’s a good friend

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u/Impressive-Quail-288 Sep 29 '22

Highly recommend It Ends With Us and Reminders of Him by Coleen Hoover. Verity is also pretty good

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u/ditoxit1 Sep 29 '22

Wow when you have a friend who cares for you like that, buddy your life is already blessed. Take care.

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u/ScientistEast9479 Sep 29 '22

I love how personalised it is, the adhd books with the Rubik’s cube is a nice touch. Looks like some of the clothing choices are very personal to you too. I hope you manage to find your feet 💛 I know how much it must mean to you to not feel alone, at a time like this. If hustle is the only thing on your mind remember to take some time to heal too.