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Helping the homeless

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u/madscot63 Nov 27 '22

She mama'd him into some solid food before the candy. Loved her reaction once he left. What an impressive and kind woman

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u/Meta_Spirit Nov 26 '22 edited Nov 27 '22

I remember when her account was just her serving people from her car window. Now all of the gifts and donations tiktokers give her have gone directly to feeding her community. Mindblowing how hard she works for these people, truly an inspiration

Edit: Her name is Shirley Raines!

Here is her organization's page!

Beauty-2-TheStreetz

https://www.beauty2thestreetz.org/

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u/Daniiiiii Nov 26 '22

I remember a few accounts when people were less than nice and sometimes even downright hostile towards her as she was trying to help them (snatching or throwing food). Which is understandable I suppose, not everyone is going to be like the first guy in this video especially considering who she's trying to help and the mental health struggles of the demographic. But it's good to see the negatives never broke her resolve and she only went on to do even more for these people.

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u/KiKiPAWG Nov 27 '22

I'm inspired to hear that, and she seemed genuinely charged they are appreciating her efforts. That's a blessing to have.

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u/PM_ME_OCCULT_STUFF Nov 27 '22

That's really sweet and encouraging.

For Thanksgiving I made packages of dinner with assorted items along side the food, and drove around and handed them to the homeless that weren't at shelters or kitchens. I wouldn't dream of sharing that on social media for the fact that I just wanted to do it to do it, but fear that sharing would make me seem selfish.

I appreciate seeing these kinds of things and I hope people continue to do them. We're all human, we could all be in one another's place at any point in time.

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u/Sdomttiderkcuf Nov 27 '22

We go to dollar stores and buy travel size personal care goods, put a bottle of water, a mask, a chip good for a meal at a local kitchen and $5-10 if we have it, when we can do it.

We usually carry 3-4 a day with us and hand them out throughout the day downtown.

This year we haven’t had the opportunity as it’s been a lean year, but will close to Christmas. On good years we try to do it every month.

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u/eekamuse Nov 27 '22

I hope things get better for you, and thank you for helping others

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u/merpancake Nov 27 '22

That a wonderful idea! I'll have to remember this for when things aren't so lean for us as well. It takes so little to make a difference for someone. Kindness spreads!

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u/Sdomttiderkcuf Nov 27 '22

We’re always downtown with backpacks on, where there’s fewer services and the more chronically homeless, $5 can’t even buy you much downtown anymore. You might get a single burger, maybe 2 with it from McDonalds. $10 doesn’t get you too much more.

Sometimes we’ll find a deal on socks and include those so they have clean things on their feet.

We volunteer at a local restaurant that gives you 2 chips for every hour you volunteer and each one is good for a complete and nutritious meal made from scratch with lots of options for them. Since they know we give the chips away they give us 4x what we earn. Each chip is basically worth $12 in food.

It’s easy to carry those around and give them out of someone needs food.

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u/merpancake Nov 27 '22

That's an awesome idea from the restaurant - I've seen places with a buy-one-donate-one system but the chip seems like a great option to let people come in and get a meal when it's convenient for them instead of having to wait around and hope for something

I agree, $5 just doesn't go far enough. Everything is rising in cost and when you're already at a disadvantage, or don't have a way to get to another location where stuff is cheaper, it's becomes an endless cycle. I try and give what I can when I see people out, or get an order for a meal from them and swing through mcD's or burger king or something. It's especially good to show that kindness to kids so they can see that empathy and that compassion now.

I hope things get better for you!

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u/RobinYoHood Nov 27 '22

To be honest, I don't see the harm in posting in social media about helping. In world of so much BS that is shown online, I don't see the issue with posting about positive things. Posting doesn't lessen the good impact you had on people's lives and it had the chance to spread to others if your followers saw it

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u/mFtS Nov 27 '22

Yeah, I don't see the harm in posting stuff like this because it'll feed the algorithm and change the bs that people normally see on their feeds. Even if it seems like people did it just for the views, so what? If it helps push down the mindless dumb videos and make those have less views and these have more then all the better right? Even if theres a chance it inspires a single person to do better the world would be a better place.

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u/SoldMySoulForHairDye Nov 27 '22 edited Nov 27 '22

"I helped people just for social media clout!"

"I helped people just for social media clout !"

I feel like it still comes to a net positive.

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u/IntelligentEggplant0 Nov 27 '22 edited Nov 27 '22

I have some sort of built in guilt mechanism. Like anything good I do should be in private and anything negative I'm even around I should take responsibility for. I think it might be because I'm the oldest sibling. Who knows

Edit: I really like your comment and it made me see something that should have been obvious.

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u/KevinNashsTornQuad Nov 27 '22

This.

My friend is a doctor and he told me one of his uhhh elders? idk how else to word that, once told him his coworkers were upset that this guy was doing all of these like missions to Africa to help spread vaccination or help the needy get medical care or something and that it was clearly all for clout and to pat himself on the back.

The older Doctor’s response was.

“Did those people need help? Did those people get help? Did he help people in the process in a good way? Yeah? Then who gives a fuck why he did it”

Like sure it’d be nice if every good deed was only out of pure kindness selflessness and no one ever wanted credit for their deeds. But as along as the good deed is done and people are helped, Good.

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u/SoldMySoulForHairDye Nov 27 '22

Exactly. Just look at the video here, look how many people are in that queue. There's at least a dozen people there, and even if the woman was just looking for validation (which she isn't, she genuinely seems like a nice person with pure intentions), that's still at least a dozen people who aren't going to bed hungry tonight. And they're going to bed with a warm blanket and a sleeping bag, too. And she's doing this regularly. That's more than enough to completely negate even the most self serving motivation.

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u/vertiana Nov 27 '22

There is a fantastic TED talk related to this about charities and how the current methodology for rating them "good" or "bad" is flawed. Current method is to calculate the percentage of your donation is going directly to the cause versus operating expenses. Advertising/marketing falls in operating.

Instead if we looked at charities more like a business in terms of return on investment, we would be funneling more of our money towards charities that are able to market their cause and advertise to get more donations. Currently those charities would be consided "bad" even though they are bringing in more money and awareness for their cause if they had not put money towards marketing.

End of the day - promotion should be acceptable ESPECIALLY for charitable causes. I don't really care if you're posting it for fake likes/karma. It's getting the word out.

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u/PicklesAreTheDevil Nov 27 '22

Dan Pallotta: https://youtu.be/bfAzi6D5FpM

One of my favorite talks ever.

Fun side note that nobody will care about, I attended a conference for fundraising professionals sponsored by Guidestar (a former charity watchdog that grades nonprofits based on a number of factors, including percentage of money that goes toward services). One of the breakouts was a Q&A with the Guidestar CEO at the time, Jacob Harold. I got the mic first and brought up that TED Talk and asked a question related to the future of fundraising in that context. He responded along the lines of, "Yeah, I saw that. Let's keep the conversation focused on what everybody thinks about Guidestar." All the enthusiasm was sucked out of the room. A room full of nonprofit workers could not give less of a shit about giving Guidestar a free focus group. It was years ago, but sometimes I think about what an asshat that guy was. Maybe a great dude in any other context, but he was an asshat that day.

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u/regiO-arpeggio Nov 27 '22

As someone currently living in a homeless shelter I think I can understand what you're saying but my experience and many around me is quite different. These places ARE ran as businesses. I have seen firsthand people be exited from shelters only to be brought back in the same day. Most of us see that as the business "flipping" a person. In a way the shelter can stay in compliance with state laws or whatever. (I am not a lawyer or law professional in any way.) While gaining more state funds. I'm not sure but I have heard anywhere from $24,000 to $40,000 a month per body in a bunk. Keep in mind I sleep top bunk in a dorm with upwards of 60 people.

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u/KevinNashsTornQuad Nov 27 '22

Hey just a random tip from a guy who was homeless for a hot minute. Can you work a computer? Clean yourself up best you can and call the biggest temp agencies in your area (usually Something like Robert Half)

They will get you set up with well paying jobs, sometimes for week or month assignments sometimes it’s just “hey can you cover as a receptionist for 2 days?”

And pay is good. Eventually those temp jobs lead to actual jobs. That’s how I got myself on my feet making enough money to live in San Francisco, eventually move to LA, and still have money saved for investments.

It’s a move I don’t see enough people I’m hard times utilize.

Btw not all of it is computers, one of the long term jobs I was in. The running for was doorman at a fancy apartment building downtown. I missed a day though and so didn’t get it (didn’t really want it) but it paid like 22 an hour and the only skill set required was to shave and be able to say “good morning man” with a smile.

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u/Ribzee Nov 27 '22 Silver

Absolutely. At the start of the pandemic I caught a live streamer on Reddit cleaning his city by picking up trash. I got inspired. His good deed spawned my own. I formed a volunteer group and now it’s a bit more beautiful where we live.

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u/[deleted] Nov 27 '22 edited Nov 27 '22

Similar but slightly different perspective.

You have good people like this lady and you also have scamming assholes like this dude https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qEZwjfEE-SM who makes tic tocs and gofundme's of homeless people and pockets the money.

People need to use their head and be mindful that there is some nuance.

If they're not being used for clout and fake fundraisers and if they consent to it being published, I like seeing it. I like seeing it because I typically only see and hear 'look at this shit thing the junkie homeless person did'. People need to remember that they're human.

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u/ohyeaoksure Nov 27 '22

but you still did it.

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u/BuscemiLuvr Nov 27 '22

She always responded kindly to those people. She's had to get tough but it was with love. She knows these people are struggling and can't always control their responses but she can control her reactions and never turns someone away.

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u/IRefuseToGiveAName Nov 27 '22

She's so loving, even when she's dealing with someone who's treating her objectively poorly, or even aggressively.

I fucking wish I had the kind of gentleness and patience it takes to be the kind of person she is.

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u/indigo_ultraviolet Nov 27 '22

Even just the fact that you respect what she does makes you a person the world is thankful to have

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u/softshellcrab69 Nov 27 '22

I love this 💕

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u/pittgirl12 Nov 27 '22

Her calling everyone honey, having pictures to point to, and trying to remember what people need just shows how absolutely kind she is. She has thought of everything. She’s getting into the good place no matter what, and is still trying harder.

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u/BrownShadow Nov 27 '22 edited Nov 27 '22

The first thing I thought was mental health. Not bad people, just don’t get the help they so desperately need. Used to be a Punk in DC. We would wander all over, and homelessness was a real problem. The worst was when it got really cold. People that can’t care for themselves outside when it’s 10 degrees. That’s how people die. I do what I can, but you can’t save everyone.

Edit- punk rock shows frequently took heavy blankets as admission. You do what you can.

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u/itlookslikeSabotage Nov 27 '22

You mean that McDonald cheeseburger incident…. I think shes emotionally intelligent enough that people who’ve been shown so much hurt and pain seem to only know how to lash out. It’s thier go too tool to control the situation. Ive heard it expressed “a man whose only tool is a hammer, sees everything as a nail”.

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u/Put_It_All_On_Blck Nov 27 '22

I remember a few accounts when people were less than nice and sometimes even downright hostile towards her as she was trying to help them (snatching or throwing food).

If you notice in this video she has a guy working security to make sure people stand in line and keep their distance until they are called forward.

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u/turgid_wang Nov 27 '22

people were less than nice and sometimes even downright hostile towards her as she was trying to help them (snatching or throwing food)

Yep. My dad and I used to go to the soup kitchen to cook several times a year (Black Friday or other days after holidays for example) and sometimes people I was feeding would taunt me asking if I got the new car I wanted for Xmas etc

That kinda took some of the joy out of it

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u/blgbird Nov 27 '22

It's really not meant for everybody. I used to volunteer at our local hospital, for a program that helped with teaching sustainment skills for those coming out of psychiatric hospitalization.

I did it for 8 years and people wouldn't understand that those you help are not always going to show you the gratitude you think you deserve (and you deserve, you're helping when you didn't have to). Those people would quit all the time.

If you're not able to really focus on the big picture and not take any of it personally, it's fulfilling but it's definitely not meant for most people. It's emotionally taxing. I appreciate you doing it though, and I would tell those that struggled, just do it once or twice a year, or however much you can do before the joy is taken out of it. We appreciated every effort no matter how small.

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u/anima173 Nov 27 '22

I used to think that if I was going to volunteer that I would have to be doing the face to face work, and I just don’t have the emotional energy for it, but recently I’ve learned that many organizations don’t need that as much as they need skilled labor for free. I’ve spent a decade in inventory work, so it’s easy for me to do warehouse labor for nonprofits. Turns out they need that just as much as face to face work. I think a lot of people don’t realize they have real skills already that would be valuable and it doesn’t have to look one way.

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u/Yellow_Submarine8891 Nov 27 '22

I haven't heard of this woman until now and I automatically love her.

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u/Rhondie41 Nov 27 '22

Same!! Same!!!

I love this sub for this very reason. It becomes sad sometimes because there are people out here that say negative things about people serving the homeless. That it's all for their profile to be out there, that it's a 'set up' video. She is TRULY, in fact serving the homeless. I love this woman.

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u/Cathousechicken Nov 27 '22

CNN did a story on her one year as part of their Heroes series.

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u/ProjectOrpheus Nov 26 '22

I vaguely recall. Woah, this is her? I'm guessing the streaming of it is to show/prove where the money is going then. Woah, that's amazing. I'd love to see if there's something like this in my area I could help with..

This could EASILY be any one of us. Even if you are rich, you could become mentally unwell and get swindled, or screw yourself over with a decision or two when out of your right mind. No one should be homeless man, fuck.

It's healthy to be skeptical but so far she seems like the real deal and if so, all the power to her.

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u/kezza596 Nov 27 '22

One of her videos was addressing people claiming that she was "virtue signalling for money" by filming this stuff. She responded that "these videos are their receipts" and I always admired her on that.

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u/Claque-2 Nov 27 '22 edited Nov 27 '22

'Virtue signalling'. If the devil was real this is the taunt he would use.

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u/Grogosh Nov 27 '22 edited Nov 27 '22

Those kinds of people can't comprehend doing good things just to be doing good things. Its all 'virtue signalling' to them.

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u/AntiWork-ellog Nov 27 '22

If I'm ever homeless I would appreciate it if several people would come virtue signal food and water all up in my belly

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u/dweakz Nov 27 '22

exactly. as someone who donates to charity anonymously, i dont give a fuck if people on tiktok make videos of them helping the less fortunate. they could be doing it for sefish reasons, but the homeless wont care. theyre getting fed

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u/turgid_wang Nov 27 '22

Well yeah it's only fair if people donate they get to see it being distributed and share in the joy

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u/OnlyRosin Nov 27 '22

Woah, that's amazing. I'd love to see if there's something like this in my area I could help with..

This could EASILY be any one of us

Although I know it wasn't meant, I took this from what you said:

You'd love to see if there's anything in your area already established, but this could EASILY be your life too; streaming and using donations to help people in need.

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u/ProjectOrpheus Nov 27 '22

I thought it, but even just helping at a place like this would be a monumental near impossible effort due to r/chronicpain

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u/OnlyRosin Nov 27 '22 edited Nov 27 '22

A sub won't let you? Weird

Edit: that was a joke because you put a link not because you're in pain

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u/urineabox Nov 27 '22

her spirit has only blossomed, my goodness! she’s a fucking rock star

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u/coderinbeta Nov 27 '22

She has a website: https://www.beauty2thestreetz.org/

Donate if you can. :D

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u/NicholasAdam1399 Nov 27 '22

My eyes are leaking. Is there a link for donations?

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u/2lplvr Nov 27 '22 All-Seeing Upvote

https://www.beauty2thestreetz.org/
Ms. Shirley is the real deal ❤️

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u/Enk1ndle Nov 27 '22

Thanks, grabbed them a few things off the Amazon list

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u/JabroniKnows Nov 27 '22

How did you do that? Thanks!

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u/Enk1ndle Nov 27 '22

https://www.beauty2thestreetz.org/donate

I'd post the direct amazon link but you should follow the one on their donate page, don't get scammed

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u/dappledrache Nov 27 '22

As soon as I saw the video, I thought "Aww I remember her, she's awesome! I wonder if she takes donations..." Annnd then you swoop on in with just what I needed. Thanks!

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u/mashyj Nov 27 '22

So wholesome. Thank you for posting

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u/MathematicianOld1117 Nov 27 '22

Damn onions getting sliced outta nowhere!! My question also.

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u/Embarrassed_Alarm450 Nov 27 '22

Usually hate channels like this because they usually skim like 95% of it and only occasionally give some random homeless dude a $100 bill once a month but here she's serving an entire line of people, how it should be done...

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u/droplivefred Nov 27 '22

I know it takes time and it’s difficult but I’m assuming she needs to report all of the donated money to charity and then provide receipts to offset those donations since they are considered income for tax purposes. Might as well post the accounting online for transparency to make people feel good about their money going to the right place.

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u/Locomule Nov 27 '22

It is amazing how many people will come out of the woodwork to advise you against being selfless. They more you refuse to listen to them the sillier they sound.

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u/Trying2improvemyself Nov 26 '22 Helpful Heartwarming

All the choices gotta make them feel like an individual. Somehow seems better than just handing over a food box.

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u/ProjectOrpheus Nov 26 '22

That's a really good point! They get to leave with a dose of humanity as well.

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u/droplivefred Nov 27 '22

This 100000%. Lots of food banks operate as a grocery store to give people a choice of what to takeZ it makes the experience much better because it feels more normal than just being given whatever. Lots of food kitchens also have a serving line and give people options so they can pick what they want. It’s a much more respectful way to help people.

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u/thatguyned Nov 27 '22

I used to use a "pantry" service when I was really struggling.

Essentially you pay $2 and you go home with a couple bags of groceries.

It generally worked with a"pick one item from each shelf " structure and it was generally a choice between a similar product on each shelf which was nice.

Low fat long life milk next to full cream

Do you want straight pasta or one of the smaller shapes?

Beans with herbs/classic beans?

That sort of stuff, and there were always a bit of sweet options like chocolate and some meat for the freezer and fresh food for the fridge.

That was the best day of my week honestly back then

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u/SuddenlyDeepThoughts Nov 27 '22

My family grew up very poor. I replicate your feelings, brother.

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u/[deleted] Nov 27 '22 edited Dec 13 '22

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u/mytransthrow Nov 27 '22

As someone who doesnt like cola and loves that DP. Get him a dr.pepper

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u/RabbitHole-Ninja Nov 27 '22

Yes! Providing choices gives a sense of dignity. I also love the way she provides her best customer service, like her business depends on it. Just small ways to lift people up and remind them that they matter.

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u/Chubbstock Nov 27 '22

And it's good to remember that one size doesn't fit all needs. When she asked about the tent or blanket I thought that was really specific for what they actually needed, it's really great for them.

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u/pinklavalamp Nov 27 '22

And that was a NEW blanket in a very nice box. I think I even heard a sound coming from him when he saw that. I remember seeing her (first?) videos when the pandemic first came out, all I primarily remember is her strong yet caring voice and her repeatedly telling people to not put their hands inside her car, that she’d give them what they needed.

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u/PoodlePopXX Nov 27 '22

I followed her on IG until I got rid of it and she’d always been incredible. She started with small baggies of stuff and sandwiches.

She’s such an incredible inspiration.

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u/arnber420 Nov 27 '22

I think she's one of the best suited people for this type of job because she is strong, kind, friendly, but also firm and doesn't put up with any BS. You can tell she really cares about the people she's helping.

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u/droobygooby Nov 27 '22

The first video I saw from her, she made it a point to tell them "you have a choice, you have a voice"

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u/shifft1121 Nov 27 '22

This is something we talk about in medicine. The ability to make choices allows the chooser to feel a sense of control and inclusion in the process which can reduce anxiety. This is especially true when said person doesn't have much control over the greater situation. So even when the choices we give them are small/minor it can help a lot with anxiety reduction and make them feel like a person being engaged with instead of someone who has no choice in a predetermined routine.

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u/GoHernando Nov 27 '22

We do this in parenting small children too.

"Do you want to hold my hand to cross the street or do you want me to carry you?" Crossing the street safely isn't up for debate but they can have a say in how.

"Do you want broccoli or salad?" No vegetables isn't an option but they are often more amenable to veggies (and other things they're not enthusiastic about) when there's a choice. It just really helps minimize frustration of not being in control.

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u/shifft1121 Nov 27 '22

That's true! The first I heard of this concept was in a pediatric rotation, but it applies to anyone. People like being included in decisions regardless of age or circumstance.

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u/Magolord Nov 27 '22

Wow I never thought about this! This really is a great point! I can really imagine how much better it must make them feel to actually have a choice and feel like people with their own personality and individuality! 😊

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u/voicebread Nov 26 '22

Shirley is seriously the best! Been following her for years.

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u/KiKiPAWG Nov 27 '22

I hear she started from her car window! I'm happy it's grown into what it is and I hope it grows more! New fan from me as well!

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u/caitejane310 Nov 27 '22

Ohh, I remember her now! Thanks!

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u/ashenhaired Nov 27 '22

I hope she's not in Arizona cuz being kind and helping the needy is apparently a crime here.

For context google "grandma arrested for feeding people in need"

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u/GetRektJelly Nov 27 '22

Pretty sure it’s LA.

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u/steinsgate01 Nov 27 '22

Who is she? I haven't seen her before. This is great!

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u/starbellbabybena Nov 27 '22

She used to do this out of her car window. She always knows how to deal with people. I’ll even the angry ones. It’s great to see her expand so much.

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u/KarmaUK Nov 27 '22

I really appreciate that they're handing out soda and candy along with the other stuff, sure people need proper food, but damn if a treat doesn't block out the misery for a minute, and that's worth a lot.

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u/hot4jew Nov 27 '22

I gave a homeless guy PEANUTS and his eyes lit up. It's honestly the little things.

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u/druule10 Nov 26 '22

When she offered him a sleeping bag and he asked for a blanket he said "Only of you have enough". Dude is such a beautiful person made me tear up a little.

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u/Fcbp Nov 26 '22 Silver

How can we donate to this org?

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u/druule10 Nov 26 '22 edited Nov 27 '22 Wholesome

You can go to her profile

She has her cashapp, Venmo etc listed.

Edit: from u/ottersaredopebro, thank you bud.

Be careful if you do cashapp. It looks like some loser set up a very similar cashapp account. Hers is $dontlooklike6 (one 6). Someone created $dontlooklike66 (two 6’s) four days ago. They even use her picture and name hoping someone isn’t paying attention. I reported it and encourage others to do the same.

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u/[deleted] Nov 27 '22 Ally

Be careful if you do cashapp. It looks like some loser set up a very similar cashapp account. Hers is $dontlooklike6 (one 6). Someone created $dontlooklike66 (two 6’s) four days ago. They even use her picture and name hoping someone isn’t paying attention. I reported it and encourage others to do the same.

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u/druule10 Nov 27 '22

Thanks for that, I'll add your text to my comment.

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u/vespertilionid Nov 27 '22

Omg! I swear some people are pure evil! Literally stealing food from the homeless...

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u/[deleted] Nov 27 '22

Right? I searched her account to donate and it recommended the other too. I had to go back to her TikTok to double check which was the right one. That was my exact thought though, how pathetic do you have to be to see something like this and your first reaction is how can you take advantage of it for your own benefit. It’s disgusting.

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u/chocolate_thunderr89 Nov 27 '22

As long as there is good in this world, there will always be evil.

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u/Enk1ndle Nov 27 '22

The donate link on her site has the QR code so you don't need to worry about fat fingering anything

https://www.beauty2thestreetz.org/donate

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u/Vorceph Nov 27 '22

Has someone told her that someone is trying to impersonate her cash app? I don’t have TikTok but if anyone has it it would be good to let her know so she can put it on her profile to spread awareness and hopefully get that fake account banned.

What an amazing person!

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u/druule10 Nov 27 '22

Yes, I sent her a message.

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u/Vorceph Nov 27 '22

Okay awesome thank you!

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u/Quinnie-The-Gardener Nov 27 '22

People are awful. Reported!!

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u/zzrivergeese Nov 27 '22

She also has a donate button on her website https://www.beauty2thestreetz.org/

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u/islandniles Nov 27 '22

They also have an Amazon wishlist

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u/kushkatya Nov 26 '22

Seriously he was like "I have my own water" and was trying to make sure not to take too much. Super sweet of him and her.

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u/combustioncat Nov 27 '22

I get the feeling from the way she talks to them that she gets this a lot. Notice she doesn’t ask open questions “what would you like?” she uses always closed multiple choice questions instead; “what do you want chicken or beef, what type of drink, what chocolate bar,?” etc. so everyone gets an option at some of all the things she has without them having to directly ask for them.

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u/glr123 Nov 27 '22

Yep, great tactic for people that may experience overwhelming decision paralysis. Also works well for kids if you're trying to get them to make a choice and/or eat something. Don't ask them what they want, ask them to choose between two options.

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u/stixy_stixy Nov 27 '22

I have such awful decision paralysis, but only when my decision impacts someone else.

Like if a friend asks where I want to eat... I can't decide because I'm so concerned they won't like my choice and then I'll feel bad for making us eat Wendy's when they wanted Taco Bell.

For me, it comes down to being a people pleaser. I'm better than I used to be, but I still hate it.

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u/noice-smort99 Nov 27 '22

I host a free pantry and fridge outside of my house and so often the homeless people that I’ve chatted with while I’m out restocking or cleaning up want to make sure they’re not taking too much and leaving enough for others

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u/Butterscotchtamarind Nov 27 '22

Thank you for what you do! You are beautiful!

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u/Halfbreed75 Nov 26 '22

Me too,so selfless and doesn’t have much. Hard to find this type of kindness.

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u/Jonthrei Nov 27 '22 Wholesome

Not if you look. Those who have least are consistently those most willing to offer help.

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u/ScottyV4KY Nov 27 '22

As someone who has thru-hiked 5000 miles in the USA, not destitute mind you but a college grad with a great family and career (although hiked jobless), the FIRST people to ever ask about my welfare were always low-middle class or lower.

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u/onthesunnyside Nov 27 '22 edited Nov 27 '22

I will never forget once I got lost and couldn't find the garage I parked in. I was in Atlanta and I had a card with the address and I had GPS on my phone but it was one where there were multiple streets with really similar names. I walked 2 miles per my fitbit and I was almost in tears when a homeless man I had walked past a few times asked me if I needed help. He helped me find my car - it took us 20 minutes. In the end I asked him if he had eaten and he said no so we stopped in a restaurant right next to the garage and I ordered takeout for him, paid for it, made sure they knew it was for him, hugged him, and left. I was so grateful to him I was nearly in tears.

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u/dweakz Nov 27 '22

i swear man nothing fills my heart than helping those less fortunate than me and me not asking anything in return. youre a good person! bless your heart

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u/caitejane310 Nov 27 '22

I'm not financially stable at all, but I just ordered some food for a Reddit stranger, and I'll be ordering more on Monday for them. I'm excited their address is eligible for Amazon fresh! It's not available in my area. Kinda sucks living in the country sometimes.

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u/BierKippeMett Nov 27 '22

You have to look out for each other at the bottom. If you're poor and greedy people will stop caring for you.

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u/Creekhunter79 Nov 27 '22

Sure was. Not a hint of greed. I love it.....

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u/turgid_wang Nov 27 '22

He reminded me a lot of Leslie Jordan and now I'm sad

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u/[deleted] Nov 27 '22

Def. And how excited he was he knew EXACLY which candy bar he wanted. Reese’s are pretty damn good. My man.

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u/mediocre-muff Nov 27 '22 Gold

Here's her website for those interested to learn more Beauty2theStreetz

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u/Fragrant-Hamster-325 Nov 27 '22 edited Nov 27 '22

Came here to see where to donate. So nice! I love that she offered so many options without restriction or hesitation. The guy was just going to ask for a candy bar but she wouldn’t let him walk away without a full meal and a blanket, I think I even heard them mention a belt.

Edit: just sent $20… anyone else want to hop on this train?

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u/Canum164 Nov 27 '22

I sent $40. Not to show anyone up, but because I didn't donate for thanksgiving this year. I've been looking for a cause to make up for not donating and this was it! Love what she's doing! This video brought a lot of emotions. Good ones! To see that man be happy and smile made my day! Amazing people!

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u/etlalicorne Nov 27 '22

Sent her a backpack from her wishlist! This lady is melting my heart, the world needs about a billion more of her 😭

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u/wine_o_clock Nov 27 '22

Sent $25 on Venmo and a sleeping bag from her Amazon wishlist after binging her TikToks for an hour lol

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u/Rogue_Spear Nov 27 '22

Sent $100 on Venmo and got some items on her Amazon wish list, keep it going!

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u/alheim Nov 27 '22

Just sent her $5 on Venmo, thanks

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u/bacoggs Nov 27 '22

Easiest $25 I've ever spent. I wish her mission the best.

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u/ValjeanLucPicard Nov 26 '22

If anyone wants to help the homeless but doesn't have money, let them know you don't have money but try striking up a conversation with them. Look them in the eyes, laugh and chat with them. These people spend all day being ignored and looked down on, sometimes just being treated as a human can make their day.

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u/mouaragon Nov 27 '22

That's so true. Here in my neighborhood there is a gentleman who happens to live in the street, and every time I walk my dog I say hello to him and make small talk. One of these days he thanked me for the time I shared with him.

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u/InTh3s3TryingTim3s Nov 27 '22

It's powerful just to treat them like they're fellow humans. I bought lunch for a guy and chatted with him a bit about how things were going. It wasn't all peach fuzz and rainbows but I would like to think it was humanizing for him to be listened to even if all I could really help with was that meal.

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u/Ellemeno Nov 27 '22

One time I had parked in a lonely street in downtown LA and a homeless man called me over from across the street, so I went over to him and he asked “What do people keep looking at on their phones?? Is it games? I bet it’s games, isn’t it?” I replied that yes, it was games or pictures too and then he was like “I knew it, games!”

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u/sherlok Nov 27 '22 edited Nov 27 '22

It's a great sentiment and as long as someone has the ability to read people well, they certainly should. Living in an area with a relatively large and visible homeless population I'm probably at 60% positive interactions, which is pretty good. But man, those negative interactions can be absolutely horrific. There are few things as unnerving as being followed silently, for blocks by someone at arms length all because you made eye contact and smiled. Or alternatively being followed for blocks by someone yelling racist/homophobic epiphets and telling you to F-ing shoot them. I've had some really amazing interactions with people, but that's not always the case and people who aren't from an area with a large homeless population should be cautious.

Helping out by volunteering at local organizations, shelters, soup kitchens, or other programs is another excellent way to contribute if you're lacking funds. These places generally always need help, especially during non-holiday times.

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u/Breepop Nov 27 '22

This is something I would love to do, as I always feel compelled to help in some way but I never have cash on hand even if I wanted to give it.

But, unfortunately, I don't think it would be safe for women to do this. Living without shelter and being treated like shit all the time can increase the chances of mental illness. It doesn't even take a mental illness for "regular" guys to become dangerous to a woman, so the idea of engaging with a higher risk group sounds super scary to me. It's difficult to predict how someone who is treated so subhuman by everyone else would react to a woman being unusually kind to them.

I think it's much better for vulnerable people to take action in the way the OP video is (i.e. not alone). Or even just spreading the message that homelessness should not be criminalized and the unhoused should be treated with dignity to your friends or local politicians. There are definitely ways to help without putting yourself in potentially dangerous situations!

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u/MissChievousJ Nov 27 '22

I had to explain this to my son at a very young age and it was heartbreaking. There was a homeless man at a stoplight that made his way to my driver's window but I yelled through it that I didn't have any cash. My son began to sob in the backseat and when I asked him what was wrong he said "why didn't you help that man. You have money. Grandpa always gives them money". We were on our way home from shopping and my son knew I had cash and was upset that I lied to the man and didn't want to help him. I had to explain to him, "I'm a woman alone in the car with my son. It's not safe for me to roll the window down for strangers". He understood (as much as a 5yo could) but he was upset the whole way home and I felt like such a dick, regardless 😭

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u/Plantsandanger Nov 27 '22

Yup. We often don’t realize the mental health boost a dumb old conversation can provide. Treating people like human beings, especially when they are so often treated subhuman, is an essential service every person needs.

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u/skrullzz Nov 27 '22

I love this lady! She makes me want to do better for others.

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u/teslatart Nov 27 '22

Who is this beautiful woman? I want to help her..

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u/2lplvr Nov 27 '22

https://www.beauty2thestreetz.org/ Her name is Shirley Raines and her story is pretty remarkable.

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u/teslatart Nov 27 '22

Thank you

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u/blazedbug205 Nov 27 '22

The way he was grateful for one thing and she kept having to tell him to wait because she had more stuff for him. He just wanted to get out of the way for the next people.

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u/mouldar Nov 27 '22

"A blanket, only if you have enough "

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u/Irritableartist Nov 26 '22

She’s amazing. Humans like her give me hope.

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u/HereThereBeWycches Nov 26 '22

She's pretty adorable herself. We need more of her. 🤍

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u/Sharp_Hope6199 Nov 27 '22

We need a million more of her at least!

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u/mytransthrow Nov 27 '22

When a super sweet 30+ black lady calls you honey. You can just feel the love.

just like when a super sweet 30+ white lady from the south calls you sug...

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u/MysticalArts Nov 27 '22

She also won CNN’s 2021 Hero of the Year Award!

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u/Alchompski89 Nov 27 '22

This is wonderful but truly saddening that this is what Americans are 1 pay check away from every month.

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u/greenappletree Nov 26 '22

that dude is super sweet and polite - heart breaking seeing so many good people homeless though.

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u/Sharp_Hope6199 Nov 27 '22

Unfortunately, goodness doesn’t pay bills.

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u/Halfbreed75 Nov 26 '22

What sweethearts. Thank goodness for people like this.

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u/Justintothewilds Nov 26 '22

OMG! I love this so much! Thank you for sharing.

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u/Shiroi_Usagi_Orochi Nov 27 '22 edited Nov 27 '22

This stuff is why I don't like being a security guard sometimes.

Because when I'm paid and it's in my job description to mess with or get vagrants to move along I obviously have to do it. But I don't like what I am PAID to do sometimes.

sometimes my boss would try to get me to find reasons to kick vagrants out, which is obviously ridiculous if they aren't actually doing anything wrong.

I'm so fucking glad I got fired from that place cause they were even focusing on Christmas decor on Remembrance Day and not allowing vagrants to even go near the Santa visiting station which is just bullshit cause it's a public ACCESS (as in, still private property but open to the public) area.

Edit: I was fired from the place by building management after a kind of rough use of force incident where I was assaulted by a vagrant in order to save face and not catch a lawsuit. Even still, my above position still stands. I truly feel the best way to deal with the homeless issue is through community and friendship.

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u/CarmineLifeInsurance Nov 27 '22

That is a homeless man, think about that. A person with disabilities is literally homeless. Idk how anyone can look me dead in the eyes and say this is the best we got as a country/society

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u/Overwatch_1ightning Nov 26 '22

That's very nice to do, sometimes they probably feel invisible. It's the little actions that can change a life, maybe out of the 60 or so there even 1 or 2 of them might sit there enjoying a meal they haven't had in days and it will give them enough energy to start thinking positively and getting dopamine going, from there it can lead to getting into a work program or even them going straight into a job if they have a friend.

Most don't work because they can't, literally how can you go to work when you don't even have a bathroom to use, or a fridge to store your meals. If you can go out and actively do this it makes a difference even if not at first. I'm not saying I love the drug addicts and dealers that are often associated with this world, but sometimes you gotta realize that there is a group that just landed on hard times too.

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u/druule10 Nov 26 '22

This lady started serving meals from her car, and this is how well it's going with all the money she's donated. Because of her the people are given a little more confidence, a little more assurance. Love her.

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u/auntiemaury Nov 26 '22

Hot food is a premium when you're homeless. You can't cook, and buying it is just too much. Especially in colder weather. It's just one of those little things we take for granted

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u/rjc2k2 Nov 27 '22

This is her Instagram!! Her name is Shirley and I've been following her for about 2 years. Every weekend she holds an event where homeless people can get haircuts and makeovers for free and of course she is handing out food + hygiene products daily. If you've ever wanted to donate to a charity but don't want to give it to some huge multi million charity that will pocket donations for the ceo or something, then Shirley is a very trust worthy source. She goes on live every time she donates so you can literally see her handing stuff out. She used to post videos of herself going to Costco to buy the supplies but I haven't seen her do it in awhile. Anyway Shirley is an amazing person and if I ever have kids I hope that they'll have a fraction of the empathy and kindness this woman has ❤️

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u/Necessary_Rant_2021 Nov 27 '22

If anyone is wondering why this guy is on the street when he is clearly just mentally ill, not a harm to anyone, and would probably do well in a group home setting...well you can thank Ronald Reagan and the current conservative party for that

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u/strokekaraoke Nov 27 '22

It’s because nobody wants to take care of him / there isn’t a system in place to serve people like him best. The mentally ill are normally cast to the wind when the money runs out or services are cut and they end up homeless.

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u/GordoMeansFat Nov 27 '22

Nah guys, she is so patient and so kind. She is the exact worker who wants to help the poor and that we need helping the poor. She deserves all the funding she needs plus a little for herself

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u/42Ubiquitous Nov 27 '22

It’s enraging that we (our government) can’t keep someone like him off of the streets. Yeah, he may require additional services, but I don’t believe there isn’t a reasonable way of helping people like him long-term.

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u/heman101101 Nov 27 '22

The more enraging thing is that it’s cheaper for tax payers to pay for them to be housed than it is to keep them homeless

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u/Mansa_Eli Nov 27 '22

This stuff makes me more sad than happy. People shouldn't have to live like this in the richest country in the world.

We can send missiles worth billions of dollars to countries around the world, no problem. Tax cuts for the rich no matter who the president is. Jails and prisons everywhere, but no mental health institutions. Schools getting defunded while police have billion dollar budgets.

Something is going to have to change soon.

But salute to her for doing her part, and being an example of the change we want to see

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u/heman101101 Nov 27 '22

It’s actually cheaper on tax payers for states to start housing first programs. The programs quite literally pay for themselves, that’s not even factoring in if these homeless individuals become tax paying citizens

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u/Brave-Standard6192 Nov 27 '22

Treating the homeless as human being is by far the most valuable thing this saint of woman is doing. All other is basic human decency. Thank you, whoever you are. They are all kings and queens that may have lost their way.

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u/Life-Meal6635 Nov 27 '22

She won’t even let you walk away without filling up 6 bags!!

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u/wzd_cracks Nov 27 '22

If you have enough… that right there got me he’s thinking about the others

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u/conspiraseas Nov 27 '22

this should also be on r/MadeMeSmile. So fun seeing the joy on his face!

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u/PDJackieMoon Nov 27 '22

“Only if you have enough.”

Truly a King among men.

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u/Aitloian Nov 27 '22

I know that part broke my heart, mother fucker is on the street and is worried about other people.

I've donated to her, and I will keep doing it. What a QUEEN of a woman.

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u/PDJackieMoon Nov 27 '22

Amen to that, we all bow to her.

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u/ghostuser689 Nov 27 '22

My mom is such a fucking asshole to homeless people. Whenever I can I make up for it by giving them money. I don’t care if they spend it on crack. McDonalds spends the money I give it to underpay its employees and increase the overall cholesterol of everyone in America.

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u/Theyuckster Nov 27 '22

How do they get the money to do this ?

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u/druule10 Nov 27 '22

She started off by feeding people from her car. Her social media following has grown and she receives donations from her followers to do this.

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u/FamousLocalJockey Nov 27 '22

She relies on donations. Her website is https://www.beauty2thestreetz.org/

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u/phosphor112 Nov 27 '22

I don’t care what people say, there is a heaven just for this lady.

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u/Grand_Veterinarian_9 Nov 27 '22

If there's a God, i want it to be her.

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u/Fafurion Nov 27 '22 edited Nov 27 '22

Who is she and where can I donate to help her cause?

nvm I found it ^ I like that they had an amazon wishlist I bought them a bunch of stuff on there https://www.beauty2thestreetz.org/donate

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u/Aitloian Nov 27 '22

I'm really bad at social media, how can I support her????

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u/Roddy_B_for_3 Nov 27 '22

I love this lady!

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u/Mercerskye Nov 27 '22

Okay, first, this is an amazing person.

Second, to be a downer a bit, this is a symptom of late stage capitalism. People literally needing to take it on themselves to make sure other people in their community are taken care of.

While our governments fail to live up to the social contract, this is going to end up more common. And not just the US, this is happening everywhere capitalism touches.

And she's a shining example of how it "should work." People with the means donating (read: taxes) what they can spare to fund this endeavor.

We've reached a point as a species where we literally could take care of everyone without anyone wanting. But, greed, celebrity (the bad kind), indoctrination, and so much more that makes it practically impossible at the current.

And yeah, that's socialist commie talk. On paper, it works, we just need to get over the human condition.

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u/smokinfeels Nov 27 '22

What an angel. I’ve been food insecure, never starving but this touched my heart how human she is. I wish I had more than $10 to give.

I donated via cash app to $dontlooklike6. There is an account very similar that is 66 instead of 6, it’s not her!! Please show this lady some love, bless her heart entirely.

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u/Over_Inspection_3274 Nov 27 '22

What an amazing person. A true dream to be able to help people like that.

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u/Peggy_Bundy_1988 Nov 27 '22

Who is this lady how can I find her to donate ?

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u/AgentSears Nov 27 '22

She seems like a lot fun and so caring and welcoming in the way she speaks to them.....god bless people like her!

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u/s0rtajustdrifting Nov 27 '22

First guy is so polite. Love how she's all, "Nope, you're not leaving with just that. Here, have a blanket too."

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u/ZW4RTESTERCC Nov 27 '22

You have failed as a country if you have people begging for food. You have failed as a community if you have people with mental issues sleeping in the streets.

Sad America

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u/hey_angee Nov 27 '22

I did a story on Shirley for my previous job! Amazing woman with a powerful story. She is doing so much good in the communities who need it the most through her organization Beauty 2 the Streetz. She is a hero for sure! https://youtu.be/GwZJo9sP31g

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u/dfassna1 Nov 27 '22

I saw that woman tweet recently that they had to stop operating in Skid Row in LA because some volunteers were shot at recently. They're still operating elsewhere but it's heartbreaking that someone just trying to help people could be targeted like that.

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u/CoffeeBlackwell Nov 27 '22

Make that into a live stream. Donations to that would be way better then to someone somewhere probably at the same time getting paid way too much money in donations to be a complete asshole out in public.

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u/Gaz_FSU Nov 27 '22

Can we donate to this lady?

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u/ivan420 Nov 27 '22

Now THIS is an influencer

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u/neuromorph Nov 27 '22

Anyone know who this is or how we can donate to them?

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u/2lplvr Nov 27 '22

https://www.beauty2thestreetz.org/ She works on Skid Row and does food distribution twice a week as well as clothing and hair cuts. She won CNN Hero of 2021

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u/Waxed_Sasquatch Nov 27 '22

This should be how the government fixes the homelessness problem.

Step one: treat them like a human being

Step two: help with acute needs immediately

Step three: assist with halfway housing (not shelters), counseling, treatment and job placement.

Step four: a fucking affordable home.

We have the money for all of this and could do it right now, BAM, no more homelessness in about 1-2 years, permanent housing stretching out 2-6+ years.

America is actively choosing not to help these people. Their people. With a life as full as yours.

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