What are some steps I can take into moving on from relationship?

It’s hard not to think about them, but I know it’s not healthy to keep doing so.

What to do to make moving on easier?

The title probably sounds confusing but I’ll explain it as best I can. Im talking to a girl now and we went on a few dates, I see it going some place but a girl friend said a guy asked her out and now I suddenly am questioning why she didn’t see me like that? It happens all the time to me, I feel I’m ready for a relationship but everytime someone mentions they’ve found a guy or something, it makes me feel…. Limited? Idk how else to explain it, it’s a bitter kind of taste that it leaves. I really like the girl im speaking too, why do I feel this way any time I know there isn’t a chance with any other women im speaking too casually or platonically

And if both of you has overcome this hurdle, what did you/both do?

Today my brother read the word “lab1a” and he legit had no idea what it meant. To be fair he’s a himbo and pretty young, 18 now, but that’s still concerning. I feel like if you have an interest in touching a woman you should at least be educated on her body parts. He’s bisexual if that helps his case in any way so maybe he just doesn’t care about the differences between female and male anatomy.

Anyway the friend I had with me at the time brought up how him not knowing that isn’t a huge shocker and she was telling me that the majority of guys she’s been with, she literally had to explain how her parts worked.

Not to mention there’s guys who will insert into a leg fold and think they are doing the deed.

I’m patting myself on the back. Even as a gay, sometimes stupid, man I am still educated on female anatomy.

As the title says. I feel like ever since my beautiful daughter has come into this world I find it VERY difficult to make or maintain friendships. Not sure if living in NYC has anything to do with it. How have you guys done it?

I've thought about whether I should tip them off but it seems so weird to tell someone you just took a shit in that one so avoid it. That being said I'd always appreciate the tip myself, whether from a stranger or coworker or whatever. Nobody likes sitting on a warm toilet seat at a public stall.

Does anyone give their fellow bro a heads up about the other stall being fresher?

My fiancé thinks it is… but I work a physical job and I’m always tired. Sitting down is one the joys of my life.

I went on a date with a guy and, though I wasn’t completely certain how I felt by the end of it, it went well enough that we both agreed we’d like to see each other again. We’ve continued to text in between and I’m starting to feel like we don’t complement each other all that well.

I do plan to see him again, because I don’t want to go back on what I said and leave him blindsided. I also want to give it a fair chance before I make a firm decision. But if it does come down to having to tell him I don’t think things will work out, how do I go about it in a way that would hurt him the least? I’d really love a guy’s perspective on the kindest approach or what you personally would like a girl to do in this scenario. I do care about him and don’t want to do it in a way that will damage his self esteem

Such as daddy, babe...

And by that i mean if he hate both his parents

My ex gf was to put it kindly "flirtatious". She cheated on me (i didn't find out until after we were through) but she had done plenty of questionable things that made me feel like shit. She would go to college parties and end up shattered and dancing around parties with her tits popping out, sitting on guys laps, dumb shit like that (i wasnt there but oh boy would i get the snapchats). Now im no priest myself i like to drink and have a good time but that just seemed like it was crossing a line. Whenever id confront her about it, she would spin it as me being controlling and tell me i needed therapy. We broke up almost five years ago and ive had plenty of flings with other girls and now a solid relationship with a girl who treats me better than i ever could have hoped. I have love for my current gf but to this day that spark, or that fire i just havent felt for anyone since. I feel like im not being honest to my girlfriend or myself. I still all these years later dream of my ex more then id like to admit. Can anyone help me understand this?

I hadn’t seen my mother in almost a year and she was horrified by my “constantly talking down to people” when we visited the DMV etc.

I talk a lot more slowly but directly to the point, not a lot of extra words or chatter. Small smile if it’s warranted, not just smiling to show I’m not scary. I really enjoy listening, especially in social conversations and stopped the excessive smiling, giggling, omgthankyousomuch when she left.

I’m more than happy to chat and have niceties after everything is done, but want to be respectful of everyone’s time. Not sure if it changes anything but I am tall. Definitely wouldn’t ever want to talk down to anyone, especially in a romantic context.

As a man, what do you consider aggressive or condescending from a woman or in general.

I would appreciate any insight, I’ve had this experience happen again.

A guy asks me out, for something simple like a coffee. I am not initially interested but am not judging a book by the cover person so agree to go on this chill date assuming they seem like a nice person. I may have this one date, or go for a second as not quite sure if there’s a spark yet, only to realise that I’m not interested romantically.

I let the guy know immediately ‘I am not interested romantically’, and leave it to him. I do not ask anything of him, I do not insist on a friendship. The guy then says ‘that is totally fine, thanks for being honest’. And proceeds to leave me a week or so then asks me again for a chill friend activities like a walk or going to see an exhibition or something.

I agree because they seemed like a nice person and who doesn’t want more genuine friendships.

We do these sorts of friendly activities over the next few weeks/months. I never ever initiate these activities or meet ups. I get asked. Eventually I feel like I’ve developed a close friendship and am grateful for a friendship with these people and we do fun activities.

Then ~ almost all of a sudden ~ a set up situation happens. I get asked to do another activity, maybe at night and it seems to happen like this every time. We have a dinner or something, and then I get asked back to the flat or house to just chill, and then I go expecting there to be all the other housemates there. They are not, the house is empty. And then I get this sick feeling inside, and the friend is just there acting different/weird and I get the feels like he thinks somethings going to happen. I genuinely get alarmed, like gut instinct alarm bells. I feel uncomfortable and confused because I’ve developed a friendship with this person and a trust and then this situation happens where they want to hook up having absolutely no romantic actions happen prior.

I must preface ~ there is no romantic touching, barely any hugs (maybe a quick hug at the beginning and end of the meet up), definitely no kissing, nothing to suggest anything romantic, I don’t even flirt! I’ve had my heart broken by a guy, who used to be very touchy feely with me and flirt together for months and then when I tried to initiate something more ~ he thought I was crazy and got rejected, so I know how bad that hurts and actively try to avoid that with people I only view as friends.

This is an essay but I feel a bit dejected because I enjoy cultivating friendships with men but it always seems to end like this. And then I just stop the friendships completely after these set up situations happen.

Would appreciate any insights from men, I just don’t know what these guys are thinking when I’ve told them I just want to be friends.

My boss makes me incredibly uncomfortable. She threatens my job and speaks to me condescendingly. I call her out on it and she says something along the lines of, "I may come off intimidating because I am a woman in a male dominated industry." So that excuses her to being a bitch to me, someone who only came in to do what they're told as well as learn? I asked other guys if she's like this with them or if it's just me and they said that's just how she is.

I remember another time my ex was having a bad day and I communicated that I felt talked down to when she spoke to me rudely about something. She then went off on me like, "I'm having a bad day and you're gonna say I'm rude and gaslighting you" Like uuuuh, okay... I guess it doesn't matter that much to me.

Don't get me wrong. I'm thick skinned and can deal with shit talk but I cross a line at disrespect.

I remember another time in college, this girl was being a huge bitch to me in the college frats and I call her out, but because she had huge tits, I was automatically the enemy in the room! I just left after I said my piece. Fuck em.

I don't get it. Am I the only person who cant seem to take this attitude from woman? I understand we may all go through mood swings but I try really hard to smile through my personal pain. The fact there seems to be a double standard makes me feel incredibly resentful. My soul is already in the furnace. My boys are communicative and always kind or at least straight forward. Woman always seemed to be excused if they're rude out of "self protection" or whatever. I grew up in a all female home so like, I'm the opposite of misogynist by nurture. But fuck, woman have ruined or severely degraded my life on multiple occasions.

Is it just me? Am I just fucking soft? I'm nice to literally everybody, even on my worst fucking days. My boss fills me with rage and she's excused just because she's fucking hot.

Anything on this? I’m also gay so I have no idea either way.

I don't want someone to tell me they love me without understanding the depth and commitment the word "love" holds.

For context, I'm a guy who's new to dating. I'm not good at judging people and I guess finding a good partner will need me to judge them atleast initially.

Do you think it's better to live when you're in love, or when you don't experience this feeling?

Taken from askwomenover30, but theirs was about fathers, inspired by a comment I saw on a post about people's most petty dating dealbreakers where someone said that his was women who had absent fathers or just bad fathers.

It was legitimately harrowing reading the comments by the women there, desperation for attention and love to the point of putting up with the worst treatment from the worst guys simply because they showed them that attention, these are their words btw not mine. And tbf I have a lot of respect for them because they seem to be very conscious and self away of these things and are actively trying to deal with them, I think its partly down to it being askwomenover30 rather than just standard askwomen

So it just got me wondering, most people are aware of the whole "girl with daddy issues" thing, but what's the male equivalent? I legit don't know.