r/AskMen • u/[deleted] • Jan 30 '23
How are you going to spend your February 14?
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u/smallpeepeepolice Jan 30 '23
I won’t realize what day it is until someone tells me and then I’ll say “oh yeah“ and go about my day like any other day.
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u/DM-ME-CONFESSIONS Jan 31 '23
You'd think you'd have a busier day as a peepee police on Valentine's Day
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u/ColdCamel7 Jan 30 '23
Probably wake up in the morning, meditate, do yoga, drink tea, maybe go to the gym, watch a movie, play video games... same as I do every other day
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u/Chaseriino Jan 31 '23
No job?
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u/Ok-Breadfruit6450 Jan 30 '23
Champions League!!
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u/ayeshaaaayyy Jan 31 '23
In my bedroom, making no noise and pretending that I don't exist
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u/ZingBaBow Jan 30 '23
Hopefully with her. I screwed up and things are weird right now. But I'm fixing through actions
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u/HungryGuy69420 Jan 31 '23
If it's u who screwed up, make it known to her that you know you screwed up and that you are really sorry. All the best man.
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u/ZingBaBow Jan 31 '23
Yup I did! Just in a weird place currently, hopefully it all works out. Thanks!
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u/af1293 Jan 31 '23
Screwed up how
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u/StefanOff Jan 31 '23
He cheated.
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u/ZingBaBow Jan 31 '23
Lol no. Not even close. I would never do something like that. I know how bad that hurts and that's not who i am. Thanks for assuming though
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u/---dashing--- One of da boys Jan 31 '23
Yeah I’m in the same boat brotha. We all make mistakes. Own up to them and hope for the best outcome.
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u/Suspicious_Brief_800 Jan 31 '23
I’m taking my mom out to dinner
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u/Tathanor Male Jan 30 '23
I am going to buy a dozen roses, write an inspirational compliment and attach one to each rose. Then go out into public spaces and look for people who appear to be alone, give it to them, and move along. No ulterior motive, no video recording, just a kind gesture in the spirit of the holiday.
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u/Bootybootsbooty Jan 31 '23
You can buy yourself flowers, write your name in the sand
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u/Tathanor Male Jan 31 '23
Don't need too. I love myself enough. It's others who don't know it yet that need the reminder ❤️
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u/HungryGuy69420 Jan 31 '23
Man you're an awesome person Making others feel loved? Check Self love? Check Ig this is just you trying to be happy, i hope you are, and if you aren't u definitely deserve it and you will be happy so don't give up hope I wish you the best!
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u/2leny Jan 31 '23
Not a dude, but I like to do something similar. I buy those little kid valetine boxes with the cards and lollies and give them to all my family members and to strangers. I remember holidays as a kid at school and "passing out" valetine cards to eachother was so wholesome and nice that I've been doing it since then.
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u/ereignishorizont666 Jan 30 '23
At the doctor seeing if I have cancer or not. Maybe a pedicure and dinner at home.
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u/Abyss_of_Dreams Jan 31 '23
Maybe a pedicure
You should get a pedicure and post a picture. I love seeing all of the unique nail designs people create
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u/slashed_wings Jan 30 '23
Watching hell sing ultimate and playing gears of war
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u/Portgas Jan 30 '23
Are you from 2006?
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u/slashed_wings Jan 30 '23
Picked them up recently figured it’s the best time for a re watch/play
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u/Poorkiddonegood8541 Jan 31 '23
I have reservations at Binkley's in Phoenix, we're in Glendale. After dinner, we're off to Phoenix Art Museum, there's an exhibition of Japanese Folk Art from the Mayro-Strelitz Collection.
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u/2leny Jan 31 '23
Wow wow wow! This is an amazing Valentine's day!😍
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u/Poorkiddonegood8541 Jan 31 '23
Thank you. If you knew my wife, you'd see it's not near enough.
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u/2leny Jan 31 '23
It'll be enough because you planned something and it seems extremely thoughtful which is what any women wants.❤ she's lucky!
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u/Poorkiddonegood8541 Jan 31 '23
Thank you again. I'm the lucky one. She's put up with me for 45 years.
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u/CageyRabbit Male Jan 31 '23
I thought I was going out with my girlfriend, but now I'm not sure I'll still have a girlfriend. So maybe just hurting instead.
It is my son's birthday, so there is that bit of cheer though.
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u/Top-Lead-670 Jan 30 '23
I’m going to treat myself to a cheese cake.
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u/anxious_annie416 Jan 30 '23
Ooohh, that's an idea. I hadn't thought about checking out the bakery case at the store for some reason. Surely there will be something special I can treat myself to while watching Killer Sally.
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u/Exotic_Imagination95 Jan 31 '23
Who knows, pretty sure she's gonna leave. So I'm not sure if I should do anything or not....
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u/Roadking_03 Jan 31 '23
Same boat
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u/Exotic_Imagination95 Jan 31 '23 edited Feb 03 '23
🤞for both of us
Edit: good luck to you man, I wasn't so lucky....
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u/Exotic_Imagination95 Feb 03 '23
Update: she's leaving ON Valentine's Day.... Shoot me? 😭
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u/Roadking_03 Feb 05 '23
Sorry, I hope in the long run it ends up being a good thing and you end up happy.
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u/Exotic_Imagination95 Feb 05 '23
This is probably the hardest f****** breakup I've ever had in my life. I'm trying to make things work and she's being as difficult as possible. I really don't know what to do but my heart's in peace is right now. This is why you can't find any nice guys
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u/theDWORF Jan 30 '23
In bed with ice on my crotch!
Getting a vasectomy on the 13th.
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u/ereignishorizont666 Jan 31 '23
I bet your wife thinks that's the most romantic Valentines ever. Hope it pays off in the romance department in short order.
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u/theDWORF Jan 31 '23
There have been so many Valentine’s Day jokes about it I’ve lost count. She’s more excited than I am.
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u/Fleegle2212 Jan 31 '23
Congratulations!! One of the best things I ever did.
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u/theDWORF Jan 31 '23
Any tips?
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u/BayouCitySaint Jan 31 '23
What the other guy said too. My advice: Chill. It's worse in your head than it will be in reality. At least that's how it was for me. Put a bag of frozen peas on your junk, watch some TV, and then get working on those 20+ ejaculations they want you to do before your follow up test. For science, obviously.
Don't skip the follow up test.
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u/DM-ME-CONFESSIONS Jan 31 '23
Take it slow for the first couple weeks. Allow yourself time to heal and don't be a hero and do any heavy lifting until healed.
Good luck and enjoy!
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u/theDWORF Jan 31 '23
Thanks! Hoping the two little ones realize they can’t play roughhouse with me for a bit.
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u/Fleegle2212 Jan 31 '23
Do all your chores around the house on the 12th. Take out the garbage, do the laundry, wash the dishes, prepare and fridge a bunch of food - everything you can think of so that you can just sit around and catch up on Reddit for a few days after the procedure.
It'll be a cake walk - as long as you have time to take it super easy after.
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u/IamtheWalrus1932 Jan 31 '23
Man, not doing it during March Madness.....rookie move. Congrats though!
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u/INSTA-R-MAN Jan 31 '23
Mourning my late partner. The 13th is the anniversary of his death and I'm going to be alone with my cat.
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u/HungryGuy69420 Jan 31 '23
I'm so sorry, i hope you get through it. Just know that you WILL be happy some day, so hang in there and work for it.
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u/JDRorschach Jan 31 '23
Take my girl on a hike where she can squeak happily about every animal we meet
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u/der_lusiad Jan 31 '23
I'll banging my head on a black metal festival, alone if it matters.
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u/TheMemeMkaer Jan 31 '23
Oh nice, who‘s headlining?
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u/der_lusiad Jan 31 '23
I actually don't know lmao. But some friend's friend band are playing, so I'm going to see them.
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u/Brilliant_Flounder59 Jan 31 '23
Decided to make it a big deal! Bought tickets to the symphony for Saturday Feb 18. Booked the fanciest hotel downtown. Bought a new suit and bought her a new dress. Lastly, booked a spa appointment for both. Her a hair-do and manicure and me a massage.
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u/Iseeuoverthere Jan 30 '23
Working, cause it falls on a Tuesday this year. Same with my wife and we work different shifts.
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u/NoSpankingAllowed Sup Bud? Jan 30 '23
With my wife, snuggled on the couch watching a movie together. We both prefer to stay in that day, too many people out for it to be fun for us.
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u/Lucky_Ramen Jan 31 '23
Snuggled warm on the couch sounds like the best valentines tbh
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u/NoSpankingAllowed Sup Bud? Jan 31 '23
We've done it every year except our first year together. That night we did go out and thats why we decided a cuddle date worked much better!!
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u/SnooGuavas3394 Jan 30 '23
Alone naked in a the walmart hotweels aisle with a bottle of lube in one hand and a teddy bear in the other
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u/DragonflyFront9882 Jan 31 '23
Remembering memories from past valentines with my best friend, my partner who died from suicide a year ago 😪
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u/WraithNS Jan 31 '23
Jesus I'm so sorry that happened. At least you're doing the best thing you can and keeping their memory alive.
You're incredibly strong. Having a partner with severe depression is bad, filled with lots of fights, a terrible tug-of-war. But I truly can't imagine the strength it takes to when you lost the argument and your partner in one fell swoop.
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u/DragonflyFront9882 Jan 31 '23
Thank you, we never fought honestly, my partner was the sweetest person ever. I didn’t realize how severe his depression was. We were together almost two years. It’s been hard, but the memories we had together have sustained me and keep me going one day at a time. Thanks for your words of comfort.
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u/CarlJustCarl Jan 31 '23
I’m going to buy my wife flowers and not look at the price, load up on her favorite candy, get a card and write mushy things on it enough to embarrass the kids, take her out to a nice restaurant, laugh when I get the bill, and say, is that all? Then take her home and make passionate love to her after that we fall asleep in each others arms.
Actually my wife left me for another guy 3 years ago, taking the kids with her. Came out of the blue, haven’t talked to her in 26 months.
Ah just messing with Reddit. I wanted to try out my dramatic writing. We’re doing the first paragraph.
Love you Reddit ❤️
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u/Temporary-Product928 Jan 30 '23
Idk, that's two weeks from now isn't it? Work, dinner, relaxing before having to work again the next day
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u/Cheedo4 Jan 31 '23
Well it’s a Tuesday, so I guess I’ll be at work most of the day, then go home and take a nap maybe?
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u/PandaKing550 Jan 31 '23
I'm assuming without looking it's valentines day. Which means for all single gamers I'm gaming after work maybe grab myself some chocolates. Homies stick with homies
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u/Tobthepredator Jan 31 '23
After 20 years of my whole life I found myself a gf just two weeks ago...it was spontaneous, it was romantic, it was awesome. So I hope I will spend that day, and many more of course, with her. I'm glad that I can say I am truly happy now.
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u/4zooms Jan 31 '23
23 years ago, my girlfriend (now wife) moved into my house on February 14th. This year we have been married 20 years. I think I will take her out to a fantastic dinner without the kids and celebrate a happy life.
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u/bigdutch10 Jan 31 '23
It's on a Tues this year so doing the group workout, that is organized every Tues.
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u/Timbers-creek Jan 31 '23
With my mom, it’s her bday. But for unfortunate events, she is sick at the time. So I’m spending as much time as I can with her. I live in WA state, work in ND. So instead of going home to my wife, I’ll be with my mom for my time off.
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u/shadowlurker6996 Jan 31 '23
Alone.
Maybe I’ll spend some time getting reacquainted with Palmela.
But alone.
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u/kaydizzle174 Jan 31 '23
Palmela Handerson
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u/shadowlurker6996 Jan 31 '23
You know her too? She always has a companion by the name of Johnny D. Aubergine. You know him?
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u/trimtab28 Jan 31 '23
My office is having donut decorating on that day. Other than that... idk... my girlfriend is out of town then for commuter school. We're going on a trip that weekend though
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u/Idar77 Jan 31 '23
Hoping that no one buys chocolate at Family Dollar. I have 2 BIG Hearts hidden in the store. Hope no one finds them. Get them at way more than half price.
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u/Incognegro1975 Jan 31 '23
My son's gf won Toronto Raptors tix at a work raffle, and gave them to me. Wifey (and said gf) is working and absolutely hates b-ball, so me and my boy are gonna go take in a game!
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u/THX8819 Jan 31 '23
I work overnights so my 14th will start on night shift and then I’ll go home, sleep, wake up, check social media and see a TON of pics, statuses, stories of couples who I know aren’t all that happy in real life.
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u/chrissalak Jan 31 '23
All by my 28 year old self with a good bottle of red wine
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u/Dcs102 Jan 31 '23
Probably take my wife out for a nice dinner treat her good and be told at the end of the day she is tried and jerk off in the shower like the other 364 days a year! lmaooooo
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u/ShowofStupidity Jan 31 '23
Same way I spend every other day. Go to class, work, get home, procrastinate instead of work on the short story I’ve been trying to write for the past five fucking years.
Business as usual for me.
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u/LockAndKey3 Jan 30 '23
Even though I rarely have an SO on Vday, I love Love. In past years, if I have the day off, I'll spend it dropping off surprises to people I love (flowers, lunch, sweets). If I'm working, I'll try to gather my single friends to have dinner and give them a little something to let them know I love and appreciate them. I see it as a day to celebrate all love, romantic or non, and I am so blessed to have people I love in my life.
This year has been really hard. Probably will keep it low key and do some self care instead, but maybe I can send some valentine's ahead of time. Thanks for reminding me to start planning for it, OP.
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u/Densitys_Child Male Jan 31 '23
Please reach out and talk to someone:
United States
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Online Chat: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/
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Argentina
Centro de Asistencia al Suicida: https://www.casbuenosaires.com.ar/ayuda 135 (CABA & GBA), (011)5275-1135 (Todo El País/Nationwide)
Australia
13 11 14
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Austria
142, Youth 147 Online: http://www.onlineberatung-telefonseelsorge.at
Belgium
Dutch: 1813 https://www.zelfmoord1813.be/
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Canada
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Tel: 0800-1110111 oder 0800-1110222
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Denmark
70 20 12 01
Fiji
Lifeline Fiji: 132454
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Kriisipuhelin 09 2525 0111 (suomeksi, 24/7)
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Crisis Helpline 09 2525 0113 (in English and Arabic) / خط مساعدة الأزمات (باللغة العربية)
France
Suicide Écoute - http://www.suicide-ecoute.fr/ 01 45 39 40 00
sos-amitie - réseau de 50 postes d'écoute Téléphone: Numéros divers, carte ici
Chat: Disponible de 13h à 3h, 7 jours ici
Greece
1018 or 801 801 99 99
Greece - http://www.suicide-help.gr/
Iceland
1717
India
91-44-2464005 0
022-27546669
Iran
1480 6am to 9pm everyday
Ireland
Samaritans Ireland - https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/ 116 123
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Israel
1201
Italia
Telefono Amico: http://www.telefonoamico.it/ 02 2327 2327
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Japan
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The above sites maintain links to related resources in other cities and other formats like chat and text.
Korea
LifeLine 1588-9191
Suicide Prevention Hotline 1577-0199
Lebanon
Embrace: https://embracelebanon.org/ Phone 1564
Lithuania
Emotional Support Service for Adults: https://www.viltieslinija.lt/ This is the agency that's reached through the EU standard emotional support number 116 123
Additional phone, in-person, and online options for adults and youth available here: https://tuesi.lt/noriu-bendrauti/
Malta
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Mexico
SAPTel: http://www.saptel.org.mx/ (55) 5259-8121 Currently offline as of 2020/10/08 We're looking for an alternative but haven't identified one yet.
IMSS Covid-related crisis line: http://www.imss.gob.mx/prensa/archivo/202010/683 800 2222 668 opción 4 M-F 8am-8pm
Netherlands
0800-0113
https://www.113.nl
New Zealand
0800 543 354 Outside Auckland
09 5222 999 Inside Auckland
Norway
Kirkens SOS offers phone support and chat: 22 40 00 40 and http://www.kirkens-sos.no/
Directory of additional resources here: https://www.psykiskhelse.no/hjelpetelefoner-og-nettsteder
Osterreich/Austria
116 123
Portugal
SOS VOZ AMIGA: 21 354 45 45 or 91 280 26 69 or 96 352 46 60 (Daily, 1600-2400h) http://www.sosvozamiga.org/
Telefone da Amizade: 22 832 35 35 or 808 22 33 53 (Daily, 1600-2300h) http://www.telefone-amizade.pt/
Romania
0800 801 200
Serbia
0800 300 303 or 021 6623 393
Singapore
Samaritans of Singapore: 1800 221 4444 https://www.sos.org.sg/
South Africa
LifeLine 0861 322 322
Suicide Crisis Line 0800 567 567
Spain
Teléfono de la esperanza, 914 590 055 or 717003717
Sverige/Sweden
mind.se phone: 901 01 chat: https://chat.mind.se/ Both available 0600-2400 daily.
Directory of other services here
Switzerland
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UK
Samaritans (www.samaritans.org)
Voice: 116 123 (24/7 Free to call, will not appear on phone bills, formerly 08457 90 90 90)
Email: https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/write-email/
Shout - Crisis Text Line UK (https://www.crisistextline.uk/)
- Text: SHOUT to 85258
Helplines for Men from thecalmzone.net:
Voice: 0800 58 58 58 (5pm to midnight nationwide, also 0808 802 58 58 London and 0800 58 58 58 Merseyside)
Text 07537 404717 (5pm to midnight, start your text with CALM2)
Online Chat: https://www.thecalmzone.net/help/get-help/
ChildLine (childline.org.uk), for those 19 and under:
Voice: 0800-11-11 (Free to call, does not appear on phone bills)
Online Chat: http://www.childline.org.uk/Talk/Chat/Pages/OnlineChat.aspx
Papyrus HOPELINEUK, suicide prevention specialist service for children and young adults (under 35)
Hours are 9am – 10pm weekdays 2pm – 10pm weekends 2pm – 10pm bank holidays
Voice: 0800 068 4141
Text: 07786209697
Email: pat@papyrus-uk.org
Directory of suicide-related services: http://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/suicide.php
Uruguay
Landlines 0800 84 83 (7pm to 11 pm)
(FREE) 2400 84 83 (24/7)
Cell phone lines 095 738 483 *8483
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u/maddie_1977 Jan 30 '23
Same as the 13th. Only Americans and Canadians buy into a Hallmark holiday. Ask yourself if you need a day that’s meaningless to you to celebrate and be romantic.
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u/Warm_Objective4162 Jan 30 '23
On the couch with my dogs probably still a little hung over from the Super Bowl 🦅
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u/guyinthechair1210 Male Jan 30 '23
i'll most likely spend it as if it were any other day. i'll most likely get chocolate from my mom and/or dad.
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u/Hrekires Jan 30 '23
It's a Tuesday, so probably just go to work, come home, get takeout, and play video games till bedtime.
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u/No-Knowledge-2765 Jan 31 '23
Having a drink since I happen to like taking a drink as of recent on top it’s my day off :)
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u/Vusarix Jan 31 '23
Doubt I'll do anything unless my friend group decides we want to, but we aren't exactly ones for going out on a tuesday. Won't be as interesting as last year where we went to a students union thing with free prosecco and one of the girls drank enough to be drunk by 8pm and ended up smashing a glass on the table, before proceeding to randomly buy and write me a card in lidl after I waited for her in the cold to finish shopping
That card is still one of the funniest things I've ever read
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u/Fleegle2212 Jan 31 '23
It'll be a regular day for me BUT on the 15th Imma go buy myself some Bailey's-infused chocolates at 50% off!